Woman Asks if She’s a Jerk for Not Accepting Her New Neighbor

And the older you are, the harder it gets.

But sometimes people don’t deserve a chance…or a second or a third chance…

Check out this story and see if you think this woman acted like an a**hole when she refused to accept a new neighbor.

AITA for not accepting my new neighbor?

“I (38F) am part of a group of friends in my neighbourhood.

We take turns hosting dinner parties between our households (5 houses out of 15 in our neighbourhood). One of our group recently moved out because her husband was cheating with his secretary. In the last month he moved her in and is acting as if everything is normal.

I am hosting dinner this month (we’re hosting thanksgiving as none of us are able to see family this year). The husband of my friend (who’s back home with her parents otherwise she’d be invited) asked my husband, as they’re friends, about the plans and assumed he and his mistress would be invited.

My husband said no and that due to circumstances none of the wives wanted them (both him who betrayed our friend and his girlfriend who was very aware of his wife and kids at home).

Well, the girlfriend came by to talk to me today. She approached me right as I was getting home from work so I’m assuming she was waiting for me. She wants to try to mend fences and build friendships with the wives of her boyfriends friends and neighbours as she’s now part of the community.

I’ll admit I was exhausted after working a 48 hr on call shift and I am very protective of my friends normally. I don’t care to be this woman’s friend. I simply said to her ‘I don’t want to be friends with a woman that screws around with married men and your boyfriend stopped being my friend when he destroyed his family and broke my friends heart’. And just walked into my home.

My husband got a call from her boyfriend and he was furious with me for making his girlfriend upset. My husband really doesn’t like what his friend did either and told him that he doesn’t support cheating either and understand that I don’t want to continue friendship with him or his girlfriend.

My friends are split. All my friends that are friends with his soon to be ex wife are 100% with me and most think I should’ve been harsher with my words. But, other friends keep telling me that she’s not the problem, the husband cheated.

And while I agree with that, I also believe that this girl was aware he had a wife and young kids at home and knew that damage this would do. No she didn’t take a vow, but personally I think it’s very immoral and it’s like backstabbing another woman to get involved with someone that’s in a committed relationship.

I don’t see why I should be friends. It’s not like I’m friends with the whole neighbourhood to start with anyways.”