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Gay Man Asks if He’s a Jerk for Not Allowing His Parents to See His Kids Anymore

When it comes to people and their moms and dads being grandparents, things can get a little bit sticky.

And a man took to Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page to ask folks if he was wrong for how his treating his parents in regard to his children.

Read on to see what happened.

AITA for not allowing my parents to see my kids anymore?

“My husband and I (we’re gay) were both raised in very religious environments. I was raised Catholic and my husband raised Christian.

His upbringing was much more strict than mine with extreme rules. Needless to say our families weren’t happy when we came out the closet. His family kicked him out while mine didn’t speak to me for years and just pretended I didn’t exist even when I reached out to invite them to my wedding.

We been married now for 6 years and we just had our second child (Gale) . When our daughter Caroline (my oldest) was born, my parents apologized to me and said they wanted to get to know my family. We decided to give them a second chance since my husband’s family won’t even acknowledge us!

I did want my daughter to have grandparents. Due to our upbringing, we decided there would be no religion in our household. We don’t go to church or own a bible.

If our children decide they want to explore religion then we want it to their choice not because we force them to go to Sunday School for 2 hours every Sunday. We were very clear on this with my parents. We didn’t want any religious toys, games, books, or church events invites.

My parents push. I won’t go into full detail to keep this from becoming too wordy but we had a few incidents with Caroline such as them taking her to church events. So Gale is 2 months now. My parents have been helping out since she was born with things like groceries and dinner.

Well they came over with a huge gift basket for Gale. It had diapers, wipes, formula and some toys. One was a lamb which when hugged says “Jesus love me.” I told my mom we’ll keep everything else just not the lamb. They know the rules. That is when my dad said “Well excuse us for trying to save our grandkids souls while there is still time.”

I cried. My husband kicked them! He sent them the text messages letting them they were not welcomed in our home or near the girls again. Since then they have been sending messages, texts, and posting on Facebook telling anyone who will listen that we won’t allow them see the girls.

They even gave my number to members of their church! I having mixed emotions. I want my daughters to have grandparents, an aunt, an uncles and cousins. I just don’t want them to suffer with the same things me and my husband had to go through.

AITA?”

That’s a tough situation…now take a look at what Reddit users had to say.

One reader made it simple: the parents stepped out of bounds and that’s all there is to it.

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This individual said that when they sent people from the church out, that was the end of it.

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Another Reddit user said that the man who wrote the post tried to have a relationship with his parents but they chose to be disrespectful.

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This person said that the parents really blew it and that they’ll eventually find some honorary grandparents to fill that role.

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