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He Changed the Locks on His House Without Telling His Mom. Is He Wrong?

You know things probably aren’t going that well when you have to change the locks on your house…because of your mom…

But that’s what’s going on in this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page.

Let’s take a look at what happened.

AITA for changing all the locks in my house without letting my mom know?

“When I (23M) was 15 my dad d**d, My mom (45) didn’t wait too long to “start over” and moved her new partner in just 2 months later.

My dad left everything to me and not even a dime to her (they were not married), My dad’s will was so structured that she couldn’t challenge it, and she attempted and even ask me to pass over one of my properties to her to show my “new” dad that he was welcomed, I couldn’t even if I wanted to, because my dad’s will was specified that I must be 21 to have access to everything he left me.

This dude had kids (18M, 19F their ages now) and my mom prioritized them to keep him happy, I mean she wasn’t like ab*sive or neglectful but she tended to favor them, they went on trips, and even if she didn’t tell me not to go she’d say something between the lines as: “Wouldn’t you like to go to your grandparents (My dad’s) better?” I mean I’m not stupid and I know she didn’t want me there.

When I turned 17 she asked me to leave (My own house) because I kept fighting with her dude and I also reminded him of whose house it was, when he wanted to play the man of the house, I also called him John Conroy.

My Grandparents told me to avoid confrontation so I went to live with them, my mom would visit me often and tell me how much she loved but she needed to “keep peace at home”

After college, I decided to check my properties and also the one that my mom is living at, I wanted to renovate it to rent it since it’s a good one and can help me to afford my master’s, I went there to inform my mom but no one was there (Later I found out they went on vacations) I called her but she didn’t answer so I proceeded to change the locks (mainly to officially take possession) they arrived yesterday and could get in, of course, they called me but I wasn’t on the town.

I went to day because some renovation works will start in few weeks, I was in the back yard and my mom came in furious yelling at me saying how I dare to do that, So we talked and I let them know they have two weeks to leave, her husband (an unemployed oh sorry, self-employed) was furious, my mom and her stepdaughter started crying because the girl is pregnant (I’m sorry) but I made up my mind.

My mom’s family is shaming me but I’d like to know if you think I’m TA?”

Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.

This person said he’s NTA and reminded him to try to do everything legally.

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And this individual said this guy has been charitable enough.

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Another Reddit user made a good point…they can’t afford to get their own place yet?

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