He Used Flash Cards to Explain Why His Brother Can’t Bring His Baby to His Wedding. Is He a Jerk?

Do you think it’s condescending for someone to use flash cards to get their point across?

I mean, not including when you use them to quiz and teach someone about a subject?

Yeah, you can see how that wouldn’t go over so well.

So did this guy act like an a**hole to his brother and his wife?

Read on to get all the details and see what you think.

AITA for using flash cards to explain to my brother and his wife why they can’t bring their rainbow baby to my wedding?

“My fiancee (F) and I (M) are getting married. We’ve decided wedding’s gonna be childfree. No h**e towards children just to keep it more organized and contained.

My brother ‘Chris’ (M) and his wife (F) have a 3 yro son who everyone calls “miracle” or “rainbow” baby. He came after several failed pregnancies that lasted for years.

When they found out that my nephew was included in the no children rule; they tried to convince me to make an exception for him. Chris told me his son is a miracle baby and his presence at the wedding will bring “blessings” for me and my fiancee. I refused and said no, the wedding is childfree. His wife kept sending my fiancee pics of my nephew when he was months old (what that mean??). I told them no, and to stop.

My brother told me this might cause a rift in our relationship, I again said no and explained that the wedding is childfree. He asked again and pointed out how his baby is different since he’s a rainbow, a miracle baby. I again said no and explained that the wedding is childfree.

They brought it up when they visited at my home and I knew they weren’t going to stop so I’d made flash cards in advance with the phrase “the wedding is childfree, period” and pulled them out and started slowly showing them the flash cards one by one in this order:

The wedding (with a sticker of bride and groom).

Is Child (with a sticker of a baby).

FREEE (with a sticker of a 🚫 sign).

PERIOD (with a huge, black dot sticker).

They both were stunned. I asked if they get it now and Chris had lost his s**t. His wife had already grabbed her stuff and walked out. Chris called me an a**hole for doing this and said that I disrespected him, his wife and their son who’s my one and only nephew.

He rushed out after we argued. My fiancee saw the whole thing and thought that it was funny but my parents and Chris are livid beyond measure. They’re telling everyone about the amount of disrespect and mockery I had displayed towards them and I’m being told to “fix it” now.”