Oh, man, this is a sticky situation.
And it has all the elements that made for an intriguing story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page: family, love, betrayal, you name it!
But the big question is whether this guy is an a**hole…check out his story below and see what you think.
AITA for refusing my sister’s offer to be in her bridal party and not giving an explanation?
“I (26m) fell in love with my sister’s partner.
This began around a year ago when my sister had to travel for work for an extended period of time and her partner got into a pretty bad car accident just a week after she left. Without going into too much detail about his injuries, he needed someone staying with him and helping him get around for a while.
I do freelance work from home to support myself, so they asked me if I could go and stay in their home for a while as her partner’s temporary caregiver while he recovered. I immediately agreed, wanting to help in any way I could.
Her partner and I were already good friends prior to this situation, but living with someone and being there in some of their most intimate moments obviously strengthens a bond even further. We bonded over our many shared interests and got to talk about deeper things that were typically off limits in a group setting.
By the time I realized my changing feelings, it was too late to distance myself from the situation. I had committed to helping him for the duration of his recovery and a sudden change in my behavior would just tip him off that something was wrong and add unnecessary stress to an already hard time.
He had expressed feeling like a burden more than once. So, I pulled away the little bit I could and we rode out those last few weeks together before he was back on his feet again.
To make a long story short, the period that followed was full of guilt from me and confusion from my sister’s partner by my quick disappearance following our time together.
He eventually texted me and asked if he had done something wrong during our time together and p**sed me off somehow, so we met up and I came clean. The conversation was a brutal one and it eventually ended in both of us agreeing we would limit our time together from now on as there was no hope for an actual future for us – it would simply be too weird given the history.
Fast forward to now. The two of them got engaged somewhat recently and this past Saturday, my sister asked me to be in her wedding as part of her bridal party.
I asked her to let me think about it (which already caused some tension) and finally told her yesterday that I was incredibly grateful for her offer but I had to turn it down. I’m fine attending as a guest, but being in the party just feels too much. She is now furious with me and is demanding I give her an explanation at the very least, something I have refused.
Let’s see what Reddit users had to say.
One person said he’s an a**hole and he needs to tell his sister the truth.
Another reader said this is serious and that his sister’s opinion is really the only one that matters.
And this individual agreed that the sister needs to be told the truth.
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