Is It Ever OK To Comment On Another Person’s Body At The Gym?

I honestly hope that you read this headline and immediately said “nope,” and figured you could tell how this AITA was going to go even before you dug in.

That said, this woman’s story might convince you that there is a small number of instances when clapping back at someone about their body might actually be warranted.

Let’s see.

OP is a small-chested woman who is comfortable with her body and also with taking care of herself at the gym.

I (25f) hate wearing bras. They’re uncomfortable, constricting, and expensive. With work from home, I spent the last year and a half basically never wearing a bra and got used to it.

Quite frankly, my boobs are nonexistent anyways.

On the day in question, a random dude stopped her in the middle of a lifting set too inform her that he could see her nippes.


I recently started going to the gym again and started working out braless. I should note that up until now, no one has ever pointed out anything wrong with me not wearing a bra.

However, in the middle of a set of squats (yes, MID SQUAT), a guy comes up to me, taps me on the shoulder to get my attention, and tells me that my nipples are poking through my shirt.

I get really irritated because why tf is this guy staring at my nipples in the first place and then stopping me mid-set to inform me?

She tried to ignore him but he just kept talking about her nipples and how she looked like she needed help with her set (she didn’t).

 get really annoyed, try to finish my set, but then this fucker literally grabs the bar, as I ascend and re-racks it for me. He claimed it looked like I was having trouble with the last rep, and that he had come over to make sure I could do it, then noticed my nipples.

I’m really pissed off at this point and told him I didn’t need his help finishing my set and why the fuck was he looking at my chest in the first place??

He said he was going to spot me, but then noticed my chest and thought it’d be inappropriate.

I pointed out that the safety bar was set, so even if I did fail the set, he wasn’t needed.

He insisted he thought she needed help, then advised her that people would be less uncomfortable offering it if she wore a bra.

She’s seeing red but this guy is just not taking the hint.

But he just insisted people at gyms look out for each other, and that going forward, I should probably wear a bra so other people wouldn’t get uncomfortable and that it may help me stay more balanced in my squats.

I’m literally the only girl at the weights section of the gym at the moment, and other guys who were squatting and failed sets never have to worry about this shit. I’ve seen guys fail multiple sets in a row and no one ever rushes to their aid, but I have a very slight pause, and everyone thinks I need rescuing.

So I’m now really annoyed and also kind of uncomfortable that this guy I’ve never spoken to in my life thinks he’s helping me and then has the audacity to tell me how to dress.

Finally, she lashes out and informs him that his boobs and nipples are bigger than hers so maybe he should wear a bra in case he fails his set and people want to help him.

So I tell him “You have bigger boobs and nipples than I do. Maybe YOU should wear a bra so people won’t get uncomfortable and you won’t fail your squats.”

He then got really defensive, saying he was just trying to help, then called me a b*%ch. Honestly I’m not sure if I overreacted, but I’m still kind of pissed off so maybe that’s clouding my judgment. AITA?

She clarifies for people in the comments that nothing about what she was wearing was lewd in any way.

Edit to add: I’m not sure if people think I’m walking around and it’s extremely obvious my nipples are showing. I actually really hate constricting clothes. My t-shirt size is x-small but I wear size large to the gym (and pretty much everywhere lately), and you can’t tell my stomach from my chest.

My nipples might’ve been showing a little more while squatting because I was wearing a lifting belt

What does Reddit say? Can they type through the red haze? Let’s find out!

Bottom line? No one has the right to comment on your body no matter where you are or what you’re wearing.

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We can assume he doesn’t know how boobs work.

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And he definitely doesn’t understand the struggle of being a lady.

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None of understand, because it makes no sense.

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The bottom line.

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Y’all I cannot with this dude and I doubt I would have been even as kind as this lady was in the end.

What about you? Would you have said something? Let it go? Tell us in the comments!