Is It Wrong To Not Ask Permission To Marry Someone’s Daughter?

Marriage and weddings seems to bring out the very worst in a lot of people, don’t you think? In America, at least, we’ve put The Wedding on such a pedestal that “every little girl” dreams of her entire life, and so when things don’t go as planned, well…it can get messy.

One of the traditions that has started to go the way of the dodo – you know, since women are no longer considered property that is owned and able to be given away – is “asking permission” to marry someone’s daughter.

That said, there are many who think the tradition is just a matter of respect and still expect the box to be checked.

This guy says he was so excited about having saved enough for the ring that he didn’t even think about it.

I didn’t mean to offend anyone. I was just excited when I finally saved enough for the ring. And didn’t even think to ask him.

He says of course he knew it was something guys did, but that he didn’t even have his future father-in-law’s phone number because they’re not close.

When his fiancee found out, however, she was upset that he skipped the step.

I knew it was something guys did. But I’m not super close with my future father-in-law. I didn’t even have his number saved.

Fiancé told her dad. And her dad was upset, as was my fiancé when she realized he didn’t know.

Was he wrong? Was she? Does everyone involved just need to take a chill pill?

Check out the comments from Reddit to find out what they think!

Basically yes, it’s an outdated and misogynistic tradition, and also…

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Adult women can say no for themselves if that’s what they want to do.

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A few people pointed out that he wasn’t wrong, per se, but that they probably should have had a conversation about it along with talking about getting married.

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You do kind of have to read the room.

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Plenty of people are ready to light this tradition on fire, full stop.

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Listen, if you want a really traditional proposal and wedding experience, it’s no skin off my nose.

That said, if this is something that would stop you from wholeheartedly marrying someone, there might be other issues at play.

If this man was your friend, what would your advice be? Drop it in the comments!