Is She Wrong for Not Wanting to Split Finances the Way Her Boyfriend Wants To? People Responded.

Things can get tricky when it comes to relationships and money.

Who pays for what?

How do you split it up?

Is it fair?

And a woman asked the fine folks on Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page if she’s wrong for not wanting to split up finances the way her boyfriend wants to.

Take a look at what she had to say.

AITA for not wanting to split expenses proportional to income?

“I live with my boyfriend in a flat he owns (fully paid off, his father gave it to him) The whole building was built 6 years ago and it’s in a very popular area.

I pay my boyfriend half of the market rate rent, which we update every year by looking how much the flats are being rented out for in the building complex. Which is a lot of money, but I agreed to it. Other than this, we did everything else 50-50 in the past.

I got a new job with a significant pay increase and now my boyfriend says we should start splitting expenses proportional to income, because that’s fair.

I told him I don’t think it’s fair that I should start paying for more, just because I got a new job and nothing else changed. I already pay him rent – enough rent that would get me a same-sized flat a few streets away – so it’s more than fair to him.

He made some -in my opinion very weak- arguments and accused me of ripping him off. That’s when I told him that under no circumstances we will split expenses proportional to income.

Now that I’ve calmed down a bit, I’m worried whether I’m in the wrong. Especially since my best friend told me that this is how they do it with her boyfriend too and my boyfriend owning the flat is irrelevant here.


And here’s what Reddit users had to say.

One person said she’s NTA and offered a suggestion about what she should do.

Photo Credit: Reddit

And another individual said they’d never do this…

Photo Credit: Reddit

And this Reddit user said this is insane and that she’s NTA.

Photo Credit: Reddit

What do you think?

Let us know in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!