Man Asks if He’s a Jerk for Offering to Help His Wife With the Dishes

Jeez, I never thought someone would get offended if a person asked if they could help out with washing the dishes, but here we are…

And now it’s up to you to decide if this guy acted like an a**hole or if he was just trying to help out.

Read his story below and let us know what you think in the comments.

AITA for offering to help my wife with the dishes?

“My wife (26f) and I (26m) both work 4 days a week, I work 12hr shifts and she works 8hr shifts. She would work more, but our daughter (1f) needs to be picked up from daycare. I leave for work before they wake up and some days get home after our daughter has gone to bed.

This week, our daughter’s daycare provider was sick, so my wife took the week off of work to care for her. I worked an extra day to make up for her lost income, so it all worked out fine (or so I thought)

She seemed stressed still, so I asked her what was wrong. She broke down, saying that she is struggling with balancing work, caring for our daughter throughout the week, and keeping our house clean/cooking/etc. I responded calmly by saying that I can’t miss work or reduce hours. We simply cannot afford it.

She responded by saying she knows that, but it is overwhelming for her, and the house chores are piling up. I told her 90% of the problems with messiness could be solved if she picked up after herself. If she just put the used butter knifes in the sink after she was done, and rinsed bottles/cookware/etc.

I will happily do the dishes when I get home from work. Hell, I’ll even put them away after. But I do not want to play scavenger hunt and look around the house for things to wash.

She did not respond to me after I said that other than a quiet okay before going to console our daughter who woke up early from her nap. She still seemed upset with me still, so I vented to my coworker about what happened. He says I was being an a**hole because I didn’t even listen to what she wanted. I feel like I was perfectly reasonable.

Am I the a**hole?”

Take a look at what Reddit users had to say about this.

One person said this guy is an a**hole and asked what he was thinking…

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Another individual pointed out that he didn’t really offer to help and he ignored his wife’s feelings.

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And this Reddit user said this guy is acting like a kid and degrading his wife in the process.

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What do you think about what happened?

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