Some people are masters of manipulation and you have to be aware of them…
It’s a fact of life, people!
And we think these responses will help you out in a big way.
Folks on AskReddit discussed what signs indicate that you’re being manipulated. Let’s see the nuggets of wisdom that they had to offer.
1. You’ve been gaslighted.
“At some point you stopped doubting them and started doubting yourself.
That’s a sign you’ve been gaslighted.”
2. You were right.
“For me, it was being accused of being overly sensitive.
Turns out it’s completely reasonable to be offended by offensive things.”
3. Here are a few.
“If you defend yourself against the manipulator, but then they play innocent and make you feel guilty, and making themselves feel like the victim.
If they keep you from you friends/make you drop connections with others.
Choosing certain things for you (i.e. food, clothing), just what they want, and stuff you might not like.
Making you stay home instead of going out.”
4. It’ll never happen.
“Aggressiveness/anger/conversation steering at the very beginning of a discussion that they don’t want to have.
The conversation will never occur, there is always something that stops or diverts it, endlessly.”
5. The worst.
“The silent treatment.
You constant being given the feeling you are doing something wrong. Behaviour towards others painfully different than behaviour towards you. Keeping you from family and friends.
Calling you wherever you are for control. Change treatment of you without giving reason.”
6. Turning it around on you.
“Being accused of behavior that was originally exhibited by the accusing party.
Simple version is say a friend of yours is being extremely hostile, you respond in a frustrated manner wherein out of context you wouldn’t be viewed in a good light.
They then go about telling mutual acquaintances that you are hostile.”
7. The jealous type.
“Manipulators are extremely jealous and needy usually narcissist type.
They will start small by getting you to do little favors for them then they get angry if you don’t do everything they ask.
And a lot of manipulative people will start fights and argue for no reason. Just endless fights about who is right.”
8. Hell no.
“If someone tries to tell you that you can’t leave them because you’re all they have.
Red flag 100% of the time.”
9. Walking on eggshells.
“When your behavior around that person is entirely narrowed down to “things that won’t upset that person,” because they have trained you with the constant threat of their bad emotions.”
10. Trust your gut.
“Bad gut feeling.
Our bodies often know before we do.
I threw up every time I went on a date with my ex and didn’t listen to it at all.
6 months later I was severely depressed and borderline suicidal. Gotta listen to your gut.”
11. Talk is cheap.
“Everyone’s priorities are evident in their actions, full stop.
When their words do not match their actions it’s clear you’re being manipulated.”
12. Keep these in mind.
“They constantly make you prove yourself.
They communicate passively aggressively.
They gaslight you.
They are always “just joking”.
They play the victim card.
They kill you with kindness.
They make your problems feel small.
They emphasize their calm, cool and collective side.
They use emotional blackmail.
They take advantage of your trusting and sensitive nature.”
13. Avoid at all costs.
“If they love-bomb you.
They want too much too soon, are overly eager to commit very early on, say and do all the right things, but lack consistency. They may keep it up for a month or two.
Long enough for you to be hooked. Then they start treating you poorly.”
How do you feel about this?
What do you think are some signs that you’re being manipulated?
Talk to us in the comments and let us know what you think. Thanks!