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Time to zip your lip!
It sure can be exhausting going over and over the same issues with family members, significant others, bosses, co-workers, etc.
That’s why it’s always helpful when folks know when to shut a conversation down once and for all and to MOVE ON.
So, should you just shut your trap if someone agrees with you and admits their mistake?
AskReddit users weighed in…
Once someone agrees with you and acknowledges their mistake, that’s your cue to shut up.
by inunpopularopinion
Let’s take a look at what they said…
1. A time to rage.
“This one makes me rage sometimes. So there you are, having made some sort of mistake.
For hypotheticals lets pretend you forgot to put your mask on before going into Walmart. (This isn’t about masks dont make it about masks, just using an example).
“Sir you need to have a mask on.” (Acceptable)
“Why yes here it is, I’m so sorry I forgot. You’re right.” (Puts on mask)
We are officially done here.
“Well you see theres a pandemic going on…..” (wrong. The conversation is over)
“Yeah, you’re right I’m sorry man.” (Acknowledged twice now, problem corrected! We are done now.)
“When you dont have a mask on you can infect other people….” (why the f*ck are you still talking?)…”
2. Oh, I’m the *sshole?
“Then when you politely tell them that you get it and to stop bringing it up, you somehow turn into the *sshole of the situation.”
3. I got it!
“In situations like this I’ll typically just say “look dude, you’ve already made the sale.
Stop trying to sell me on it.””
4. All about power.
“I think it’s a power thing. They have gotten the apology but continue as they see an opening to exert authority under the guise of “being in the right”.
Usually people like that are just worth ignoring at that point. It’s not about sincerity just a power dynamic.”
5. You don’t always have to argue…
“It’s not even just about humiliation. Some people get so personally invested in arguments that they forget that you don’t always have to argue.
I was going out with this girl that was coming from a very manipulative environment and I had to articulate this to her to stop her from needlessly torturing herself on my behalf.
She’d bring up something that she assumed I might not like, I’d accept and she’d go on to explain herself regardless. “Take the yes” I’d remind her. First time I said it, I actually had to explain to her that what I meant. It just wasn’t ingrained in her that further deliberation is pointless once there’s nothing more to be gained from a conversation.
She was just conditioned to expect resentment over any decision and was offering justification unprompted. What an exhausting way to approach human interaction.”
6. Give them an “out”.
“It’s important to give people an “out.”
Like Sun Tzu said: “When you surround your enemy, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard.”
It makes sense in warfare, so they are willing to flee instead of stand their ground. Likewise, If someone is trying to walk back bad behavior, or is apologetic, allow them that.
Don’t force them to defend themselves and get combative. Don’t punish good behavior.”
7. Here’s a trick to consider.
“I’ve discovered this new trick.
It’s absolutely amazing and I don’t know why it took me so long to discover. When people start talking about sh*t I don’t care about I just walk away. Right in the middle of their little spiel. I walk away from them.
It’s sooooo satisfying because who the hell just walks away while someone is speaking to them? Rude right? I don’t give a f*ck. There’s nothing they can do except follow you which most won’t do. And even when they follow me and keep talking I completely ignore them.
Its like they cease to exist in my reality altogether. You should try it out some time. It’s incredibly liberating.”
8. Good point.
“Some people who do this grew up in households where their feelings were never acknowledged or appreciated. Ever.
They never received a single second of validation from their parents, so they spend their entire lives fighting for validation from everyone else. And when they get it, they aren’t quite sure how to react to it, and they aren’t quite sure that the other person is actually validating their feelings.
I’m not saying this is your personal situation, I just jumped on this comment to provide some context for others to understand why some people may behave like this.”
9. It’s over!
“I can’t stand that.
I’ve apologized, why am I still being chewed out? Makes me go from apologetic to angry really fast.
Sorry, but that first sorry is now a f*ck you and you’re gonna get yelled at.”
10. We all make mistakes.
“I have no problem admitting I’ve made a mistake, I’m only human and I’m still learning.
What really f*cks me off is when people talk down to me thinking they’ve one upped me.
If it’s really that much of an achievement for you to be right, think about how rarely it happens.”
11. Ego boost.
“People who keep on going don’t really care about the message getting through, but about their ego getting a boost.
In the case of the facemask, it’s just a way to show they are part of “the good ones” and by going through the usual “there’s a pandemic…” spiel, they’re simply reaffirming their self-appointed role of Saviours.
Same goes for unsolicited lectures about politics, society, religion, dietary choices and basically ANY topic where soapboxing is a possibility.
Frankly, I can’t be arsed to point out people’s flaws and shortcomings, as it’d be a full-time job, a thankless and frustrating job for me and for them.”
12. Ugh.
“I moved house last summer and was moving the Bbq in my garden when I tripped, fell onto gravel with a Bbq on top of me and swore as I fell over (quite loudly tbf).
My neighbour, who I had not met before, popped her head over the fence. I assumed she was checking if I was okay as I was still on the floor and thought “what a lovely neighbour”. I was very wrong. The conversation went like this.
Neighbour: “You swore”
Me: “Sorry about that, I fell over.”
Neighbour: “I have a young child at home”
Me: “Right, sorry. I fell over and panicked, I won’t do it again”
Neighbour: “Upstairs have young children too, you shouldn’t swear”
Me (still on the floor and now bleeding): “Understood, sorry again”
Neighbour: “You’re voice is very loud”
Me: “Yep, sorry”
Neighbour: “Very booming”
Me: “right”
Neighbour: “have you just moved in?”
Me: “yeah last week” (now surely she’s going to give me a welcome to the neighborhood and ask if I’m okay)
Neighbour: “oh” turns and walks off.”
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