Ah, insecurity. That crippling feeling of sweet terror that rolls around on the delicate palate of our psyche like a never-ending gobstopper of collective trauma. But I digress.

We humans are sensitive creatures and we all have our demons to battle. In many people, these monsters come in the form of self-doubt, self-consciousness, anxiety, apprehension, or depression. All these monsters sometimes rear their ugly head as social insecurity or overt abrasiveness towards others.

One, in most cases, can overcome this form of vulnerability, but it sometimes gets the better of us in everyday interactions.

Remember, even at our very best, we’re only human.

10. The inability to be genuinely happy for others.

My husband I were talking big sh*t (in a joking way) about the girl across the street that gets all the major roles in all the theater productions.

“Ohhh, big shocker. Janie is going to be Annie!”

My kid is in to theater. She auditions along with Janie.

Anyway, when we told my kid that Janie got the lead, she jumped for joy. She wanted to run over to her house to congratulate her. She was ecstatic!

That’s when I learned that me and my husband are a**holes.

9. The money monster.

When my wife and I moved into our house I got approached by the neighbor across the street. He was retired from the military and said he makes a ton of money from disability.

I think during our 10 minute or so conversation the topic of money was brought up at least 5 times and it all circled back to how well off he was.

And then he started talking sh*t about the neighbor that lives next door to us.

I could tell he really wanted people to be impressed and like him.

8. Putting someone down in a group conversation to make themselves seem better.

In my engineering class last semester I was basically put in a group to give a few solutions to a problem.

I made a suggestion and one person in my group was like, “wow that’s a bad idea” and I basically just shut up for the rest of the thing.

Then when all the groups presented their solutions, ofc they all had variations of my “bad idea” and I internally face-palmed so F’ING hard.

7. People never shutting up about their IQ.

Especially because IQ tests have been known to be quite sh*t at measuring future success.

Like, it’d be one thing if it worked, but it doesn’t, except for edge cases. It’s a good way to find the developmentally challenged, but that’s about it.

If you have a score of 110 and someone else 109, it doesn’t mean you’re smarter, it just means you’re marginally better at taking an IQ test.

I also once had a friend brag about him having the same IQ as Stephen Hawking.

He was not amused when I linked him a quote of Hawking calling IQ tests bullsh*t.

6. Constantly having to post how amazing your relationship is.

My sister in law does this.

Then boom she broke up with who-ever-the-hell-cares and proceeds to post a bunch of those “inspirational” quotes about how the most caring, soft hearted people get taken advantage of and then they turn into the coldest, hardest person you know.

5. Pointing out someone’s flaws as a “joke” or a way to look cool.

No one who is being an a**hole is actually secure with themselves.

At least in my experience.

4. Acting like you’re soooo much busier than everyone else. 

Especially when they have the same job as you.

When I taught as a grad student we were supposed to work under 30 hours per week on teaching (gee I wonder how they settled on that number). One colleague constantly talked about how she went well over that every week. I thought “one of us must be really bad at this job” because most weeks I didn’t work half of that and, not to brag, but according to ratemyprofessor, I was a substantially better teacher.

When she said she worked 50+ a week around an administrator he told her she should file a formal complaint; she got real quiet after that.

Oh but on the week when we had to grade final papers it did always take well over 30 hours. I didn’t count but in her defense, one hour reading freshman rhetorical analyses feels like decades.

3. Fishing for compliments.

There’s always that one person in art class who does this.

“Damn I wish I could draw like you. Mine sucks. Look guys. Mine sucks”

You are right. It does suck now shut up.

2. Being a grown-ass adult yelling at the teenagers? Bruh.

This totally reminds me of a time when I was working the cash register in the McDonald’s drive thru a long time ago. At some point in the day, I accidentally tossed a nickel (five cent coin) into the quarter (25 cent coin) section of the cash drawer. When I gave a guy change, I grabbed a nickel instead of a quarter, which shorted this guy 20 cents.

This started his long diatribe about how useless I was because I can’t even do basic arithmetic. I just had to stand there and listen to him because mouthing off to a customer meant that I could have been fired from my $5.50 per hour sh*tty job.

Part of me wishes that everyone was forced to have a job where dumba** customers treat them like sh*t so they will treat future service workers decently.

The great paradox is that if everyone did that, then there would no longer be sh*tty customers, so some employees would not be exposed to that, and they might just (not) become sh*tty customers.

1. Your partner looking through your phone because they don’t trust you

Your partner telling you stories about their sexual experiences or encounters but get upset when you talk about yours.

Your partner telling you not to talk with one of your friends (that’s the same gender as your partner)

Your partner gets upset that you talked to the cashier (that’s the same gender as your partner) about your Pokémon hoodie and said you were flirting with her.

You okay, buddy?

That was quite a collection of opinions. Me… I believe that the most insecure thing you can do is not be true to yourself and allow other people to create the world you want to live in. It’s yours, make it so.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments!