I’m gonna go ahead and say it. No, I don’t have children, but I think people who use their children as tools and pawns on social media to get likes and try to become “influencers” are honestly kind of sick.
But a lot of people out there think it’s wholesome and cute…and that’s just plain weird to me.
AskReddit users talked about what is considered wholesome but are actually toxic.
Let’s see what they had to say.
1. Not healthy for them.
“Unfortunately, many people do think that feeding their pets on demand is loving them.
The rationale tends to be that depriving pets of food at any given time is neglecting or abusing them.
One of my aunts thought this way with her previous pup and had a significant wake-up call when said dog’s vet told her that he had weight issues and other concerns once he reached his middle years because she was overfeeding him.
She was, understandably, upset and has since realized the value of scheduled feedings.”
2. Totally toxic.
“Kids having lemonade stands to pay for cancer treatment, etc.
Any of those stories about children working to pay for a family member’s medical costs, pay off their friends’ school lunch debt, etc. is absolutely NOT wholesome.
That is not something a child should have to worry about.”
“As a former homeless person, I can’t put into words how annoying the people who film themselves handing out food for a viral video with some emotional pop song overlaid on it are.
It’s 100% “look at me, look how cool and HELPFUL I am” while honestly not giving a real d**n about the homeless.
It’d be one thing if you’re putting your fame and money back into funding a shelter, or true change and volunteering and charity efforts but not just dropping $20 on some McDonalds meals to drive around LA filming strangers sleeping on the street for a bit.”
“Dating advice that includes relentlessly pursuing a woman who has made it clear that she doesn’t like you.
Lot of the blame for this is old rom coms that basically show that stalking a woman will always end up with love.”
5. Stressful for animals.
“Every so often I’ll see a ‘cute wildlife’ photo that is very obviously staged, probably to the stress of the animal/s in question.
It’s absolutely fu**ed up, but because people keep sharing them on social media, some a**holes out there will keep on essentially torturing animals just so we can go ‘Awww!’.””
6. Run for it!
“”We’re all just one big family!”
If anyone tells you this in a workplace setting, run.
They’re only like a family in the sense of the most toxic parts of one that exploit you.”
7. Not always a good thing.
“Supporting someone no matter what choices they make.
You can love someone to the ends of the earth, that doesn’t mean they will 100% be right all of the time, no matter how much you love or admire them.”
8. Can it!
““Good Vibes Only” postings.
Let people experience real emotions, Sarah, not insta-perfect emulations of surfer chill.”
9. Very weird.
“Proposing in front of a crowd.
Puts a lot of pressure on the person being proposed to.”
10. People can be upset.
Like when someone’s having a really hard time and you tell them to stay positive or try to look at the bright side.”
11. Sad state of affairs.
If the government can’t give schools enough funds, then everything is wrong.”
“The general idea our society and culture have of “relationship goals”.
Not being able to eat/sleep/think/function without your partner is not healthy.
Being obsessed with your partner is not healthy.
Looking to your partner to complete you or make you feel whole is not healthy.
Changing who you are for your partner is not healthy.
Looking to your partner as the person who is responsible for your happiness is not healthy.
Being two people, supporting each other’s goals and individuality is healthy.”
“When people who are super spiritual and love love love all the time judge and ridicule you for not being in a good mood or for needing space.
“You’re ruining the vibe” “this isn’t a hostile environment”- gaslighting is wrong and these people do it ALL THE TIME! I call them “the love police”.”
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