People Who Had Very Short Marriages Share When and How They Realized They’d Made a Mistake

I’ve always thought that it has to be pretty devastating to get married and then to have it all fall apart very quickly.

What happened? Did you just ignore the warning signs? Or maybe a deep, dark secret emerged right after you tied the knot?

Whatever the case, I’m sure it’s a very difficult thing to go through.

Let’s take a look at these stories about short marriages from folks on AskReddit.

1. Only 40 days.

“My sister’s marriage lasted about 40 days.

She found out he was a p*dophile when my other sister came forward that he’d been r*ping her for the last 4 months. When he was arrested, police found a video of me getting dressed on his phone.

I thank God every day that she came forward when she did, because he was grooming me to be his next victim. He was sentenced to 12 years in prison and has no contact orders with everyone in my immediate family. This event was the end of my childhood.”

2. I’m outta here.

“When I came home from the honeymoon and there was a Foreclosure notice posted on the house door.

His response: “Now it’s your problem too.””

3. Abusive.

“Four months in he dislocated my jaw.

But really what I want to share is the signs were there and people should be aware of them. First it was just grabbing my arm kind of hard. Then grabbing my arm hard enough to bruise it. Then pushing. Then slapping.

It took years so escalate. I heard it gets worse. I didn’t think too much of it. I thought “I’m not a wimp and it isn’t like he’s beating the sh*t out of me every day” I thought thats what domestic abuse looked like. Then I married him.

Well, let me tell you. If they’re grabbing, pushing, or hitting you they will eventually hurt you worse.”

4. Downhill quickly.

“His brother asked to move in with us and I said no.

His brother ended up moving in anyway. During the subsequent argument he said “no wonder people get divorced all the time”.

We had been married for about 6 months at that point. Went very downhill from there.”

5. Wow.

“He casually invited his parents along on our honeymoon, and told them we’d pay for it. AND they not only accepted, they were SO EXCITED and immediately wanted to take over planning it.

Obviously that wasn’t the only sh*tty thing he did. Eventually found out he was cheating on me and I fast tracked divorce before there were any kids or assets involved.”

6. Sounds like a real gem.

“Two months in he told me I was too fat and he will no longer be having s*x with me.

I lost 75 lbs in three months (by doing it the wrong way) and he told me he was already seeing someone else.

He seemed surprised my parents would no longer pay his bills, and was kicked off their property 30 days later (per laws of my state).”

7. Let’s be honest.

“To be honest I didn’t really want to be married to her.

However she was determined to get married by age 24 regardless, and at the time I had significant difficulties saying “No”, I was working 60+ odd hours a week in a kitchen to help pay for everything and I was struggling with my mental health at the time and we grew further and further apart emotionally.

I found out less than 5 months into the marriage that she had been unfaithful to me for at least a year – so 6/7 months before the wedding, whilst she had been planning it she had been sleeping with other people. Whilst she had been putting serious pressure on me to provide £££ for her dream wedding she had also had an abortion because she didn’t know whether I would have been the father or not.

When I found this all out I basically had a breakdown and tried taking my own life, I also spent a few years after this blaming myself for the breakdown of my marriage and her behavior.”

8. Third time’s a charm.

“When she cheated on me for the third time in 10 months.

Because for some reason the first two didn’t convince me….”

9. Started right away.

“On our honeymoon she didn’t want to do anything but fight, so I left 2 days early to be with my dog.

Then she stopped wearing her ring and refused to tell people she was married, referring to me as her boyfriend instead. The final straw was when my grandpa was dying and she said “I wish he’d just hurry up and die already. I’m tired of this apartment being so depressing all the time”.

Made it 4 months in all before filing for divorce.”

10. Not good.

“He would somehow piss away his money (and mine), and I realized I couldn’t trust him to be a real partner with me.

We were also pressured into marriage by religious family when I already saw the writing on the wall, but there was just one bad thing after another happening so I always felt like I’d be an *sshole for leaving.

I left during a calm period.”

11. A bad situation.

“Mine lasted less than a year.

He was an incredibly abusive f*ckhead that burdened me with tons of sh*t we couldn’t afford then refused to work himself.

So I used to pull 16 hr days back to back to back. Turns out instead of working and helping me take care of the house he was out cheating.

In all reality, he was the one who left me but once I got out of the situation I realized how awful it was and didn’t go back.”

12. Living in sin.

“Sitting across from the court house waiting to go in. I thought “you are going to look back on this moment and remember that you KNEW it was the wrong thing to do”.

I certainly did. We only got married because I was living with him and my whole family wouldn’t speak to us as we were “living in sin”.

Well we showed them.”

13. That was quick.

“I had some friends that got married and divorced within a year.

It turns out she had major doubts but went through with it anyway, then cried for the whole honeymoon and told him she had made a huge mistake.

They posted all these normal pictures of them looking happy in Hawaii, but it came out later what a miserable nightmare the trip was.”

14. My older sister.

“Not myself but my oldest sister. She has been married 5 times.

The first one was at 19, they divorced because they were young and not ready to be married. The second marriage she wasn’t sure if she wanted to be married and despite my mom advising her to walk away, got married anyway. He cheated, she left.

3rd Marriage lasted 10 years, but they fought a lot (he was a Dr, she’s a nurse, 2 intelligent people who couldn’t talk to each other about their problems). The 4th Husband was my favourite, he was kind hearted, and the most loving and supportive spouse you could ever hope for.

I think she got bored and met someone while she was on a work trip and met another Dr. She sent us an email saying that her and 4th spouse were starting to feel like they were just “friends” and she was moving to New Zealand to start a new life (she wasn’t fooling us, we knew there was a new dude). About 6 months later she announced she had a new boyfriend and a year after that we saw that they had been married.

The kicker in all of this is, during my wedding, my very sweet English grandmother said to her “Oh, i do hope that your marriage to (4th) works out”.

She got upset by this, but I dont blame my grandma for pointing out her revolving door of husbands. I wish I could invite 4th Husband back into our family, we really miss him and his family.”

How about you?

Have you ever had a short marriage?

If so, what happened and why did it end?

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