Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Missing a Co-Worker’s Sobriety Anniversary

To go or not to go, that is the question

Well, at least that’s the question in this story from the “Am I the A**hole?” page on Reddit…

Let’s take a look at what happened and we want you to let us know if you think this person is wrong for skipping out on their co-worker’s sobriety anniversary.

AITA for not consoling my co-worker and explaining why I’ve decided to miss the anniversary of their sobriety?

“Every year on August 30th my co-worker makes a big deal to inform everyone, staff and clients, that they’ve been sober from drug use for another year.

This year is year 27 and that’s a big accomplishment. This coworker has a lot of feelings and is prone to think that a person is acting in response to them, often perceiving rejection, crying and self isolating until consoled.

I took August 30th off this year not because I didn’t want to be part of their self accolades or because I don’t think that it’s important, but because each year their verboseness overshadows my actual birthday which shares the exact day. I haven’t gotten a “happy birthday” from a coworker that wasn’t immediately interjected by their notation of their sobriety in the last 9 years of working together.

This coworker found out I wouldn’t be in the office on the 30th and is now saying I don’t support them. We have worked together 9 years and they still don’t remember that the two event share a day.

So I don’t feel like I need to explain why I’m taking the day off. I’m not the type to shout my important events to the world and, honestly, I would rather be in a place where I can just celebrate a day that is special to me without constant interjection.

AITA for not consoling my coworker and explaining why I’ve decided to miss the anniversary of their sobriety?”

Here’s what Reddit users said about this.

One reader said it doesn’t sound like the co-worker is really in recovery if they’re acting like this.

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And another Reddit user agreed and said she’s acting very immature.

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And this individual said the person who wrote the post is NTA and that the co-worker sounds like they still have some work to do.

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