She Changed Her Mind About Splitting the Cost of Their Vacation. Is She Wrong?

Do you think it’s cool to split the finances on vacations with other couples or do you think it just makes things too complicated?

Or do you think you just shouldn’t go on vacation with other couples…?

Either way, check out this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page and let us know if you think this woman is out of line.

AITA for changing my mind about splitting the cost of our group vacation equally?

“Myself 32 and my husband 35 are friends with two other couples and we have been taking group vacations for a few years now.

We are all teachers except for my husband who is a welder. We don’t take every single vacation together or anything like that. But for one week every summer we go somewhere as a group. We obviously skipped 2020/21.

It is a great way for us to reconnect and decompress. I have always left my kids with my parents and the other couples have arranged their own child care.

We got together this last weekend to decide what we were going to do for next summer. We decided that we were going to Sanibel Island in Florida. It is cheaper and less crowded in the summer believe it or not. And all of us can deal with the heat.

But one of the couples wants to bring their child 12. She loves seashells and has heard all about this place. Okay. Not ideal but we decide it would be fine.

Here’s the problem. We always split the cost of the rental evenly. It’s fair. Three couples. Each of us pays one third.

So we found a rental that has one room that has two queen beds so that we still only need three rooms.

Not acceptable. On their vacation they want alone time. Okay we find a rental with four bedrooms. But it is more expensive. So they will have to pay more since they get two bedrooms.

Cue shocked Pikachu face.

“But we always split the rental three ways”.

Well yeah because three isn’t four.

Before anyone says anything we did not tell them they had to pay 50% since they got two bedrooms that isn’t what we said. We just expected them to pay the difference between a three bedroom and four bedroom rental.

Now they are upset with us for burdening them financially because they want to give their daughter an experience.

My husband and I don’t think we should subsidize them. The third couple think we should split the bill this one time to keep the peace.


Check out what Reddit users had to say.

This reader said she’s NTA and that you should never set a precedent in these situations.

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Another Reddit user agreed and said they’d be upset if a 12-year-old was suddenly coming on an adult vacation.

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And this individual also said she’s NTA and said it’s not her responsibility to pay extra for this kid.

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What do you think?

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