I’m gonna let you know right now that this is a pretty weird story…
But what else do you expect from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page?
That’s the beauty of it!
You never know what you’re gonna get!
And now it’s time to see if you think this woman was out of line for what she did…check out her strange story and talk to us in the comments!
AITA for lighting a match at night and “scaring” my boyfriend’s dad so badly he woke up the whole house?
“My boyfriend and I are staying at his parents’ house. It’s been going really well, but his dad is very particular. He has moments every day where he corrects or instructs the other people in the house on how he wants us to behave. I don’t really have a problem with it, but he has a few rules that do make me a little uncomfortable.
I don’t need to get into why, but I always get diarrhea here. I’ve been visiting them a few times a year for almost a decade and it just is what it is. My boyfriend and I used to stay in a room downstairs with a bathroom and it wasn’t a problem, but his brother moved back home and now we don’t have our own bathroom.
I don’t want to advertise the fact that I have diarrhea to everyone in the house and I’m not allowed to use the bathroom fan at night, so I usually use Poo-Pourri or Just a Drop. When we got home the last time, my boyfriend got a text from his dad asking him to ask me to stop using “strong essential oils” as it was making him feel sick. I was so embarrassed and I honestly have been kind of dreading coming here again.
I was talking to my mom about this and she suggested that I bring some paper matches because that’s what she used to do. I got some paper matches and they actually work pretty well.
Tonight I woke up from my sleep because I had diarrhea. I lit a match when I was done, ran it under water and folded it up into some aluminum before throwing it in the garbage. I fell back asleep and was woken up a while later by a big commotion.
My boyfriend’s dad smelled burning and thought the house was on fire so he woke everyone up in a panic and searched the house to see what was burning.
I didn’t immediately equate a match with a house fire and I didn’t smell anything when I woke up so I didn’t bring up that I had lit a match. It wasn’t even clicking for me that the match was what he smelled until my boyfriend asked me if I smelled anything when I got up earlier to use the bathroom.
Long story short, I just got chewed out by his dad for “lighting matches at night or lighting matches in general as a guest in their home” and even his mom was upset because I could have “started a fire” and “nobody would know”.
I apologized and everyone went back to bed but then my boyfriend lectured me for like 15 mins about “embarrassing him” and “playing dumb” about not knowing what his dad smelled and not using “common sense” and then he told me to “go to sleep” and “try not to wake everyone up again”.
I’m honestly so pissed. My boyfriend is sleeping soundly and I’m just laying here getting madder and madder. I want to wake him up so we can leave because I feel so uncomfortable.
I really don’t want to face everyone in the morning. I don’t feel like I did anything wrong, but I don’t know if I’m thinking rationally because I’m tired and I can’t fall back asleep.
What do you think, am I the a**hole?”
Here’s what folks had to say on Reddit.
This reader said she’s NTA and they have an idea about what’s really going on here.
And this individual said she needs to break up with this guy.
Another Reddit user said she’s NTA and her BF’s dad sounds like he’s impossible to accommodate.
What do you think?
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