She Stepped Down as a Bridesmaid One Day Before the Wedding. Was She Wrong?

Talk about bad timing

Anyone who has ever been involved in a wedding on any level knows how much planning goes into the big day.

And this woman wants to know if she acted like an a**hole for bowing out of her bridesmaid role THE DAY BEFORE THE WEDDING.

Uh oh…

Let’s take a look at what she had to say.

AITA for stepping down as a bridesmaid just one day before the wedding?

“So last weekend it was my sister in law’s wedding. My sister in law is my fiancé’s sister to clarify.

I’ve been with my fiancé for 5 years and we’ve been engaged for two. Before I got with my fiancé, his family was trying to get him to date another female friend of his who he no longer talks to because she’s said some pretty horrible things about him and some of his friends.

Plus she was always trying to put me in my place since I started dating my fiancé, claiming she’ll always come first in his life. Long story short, stuff happened and they no longer talk.

I have a pretty close relationship with his family, especially his two siblings, his sister (the bride) and his brother.

One day before the wedding we were having a family lunch with the brides family and during lunch she started mentioning that female ex friend of my fiancé. She started saying what a gorgeous girl she is and how pretty she is.

My fiancé and I felt uncomfortable and my fiancé was pretty pi**ed because that ex friend has caused a lot of damage in my fiancé’s life in the past so it was hurtful for him to hear his sister praising her like that but he stayed silent since he didn’t want to cause drama during the wedding period.

The nail in the coffin was when my SIL said that it’s a shame my fiancé never got to date (female ex friend) since I came along and took her place because she’d love to have her as a bridesmaid but because of me she can’t and she can’t even call her a sister because of me.

My MIL told her to apologise and tried to do damage control claiming my SIL was joking but SIL said she’s not joking, she really feels that way, then proceeded to say she loves me as her new SIL she’d just prefer (female ex friend). I kindly got up and excused myself, saying I’ll head home.

While I was gathering my stuff to leave I also said I’d withdraw as a bridesmaid since I’m not really the one she wanted there and that she should contact (ex friend) while she still has time and I’ll give her my dress since we are the same size. Fiancé left with me and while leaving he said something along the lines of “you never know when to shut your mouth” to his sister.

MIL justified me walking out, so did my BIL and FIL. They say bride’s words were ridiculous, they tried to convince me to stay as a bridesmaid but respected my wish to walk out.

My family on the other hand said I’m TA for not sucking it up for one more day and walking away from the role while making the bride stressed.


Yowza! Now take a look at how Reddit users reacted.

This reader said that they were glad this woman stood up for herself.

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Another person said that she needs to call out her brother-in-law if he ever brings it up again.

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This individual argued that the bride appears to have some serious issues.

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And finally, this reader said that this wasn’t an attempt at humor and that the bride was trying to push her buttons.

Good work!

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