I have a few friends who are divorced and their schedules regarding their kids can get pretty complicated.
Shared custody, activities, parties, etc. All that stuff needs to be worked out.
Take a look at this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page and let us know if you think this woman acted like a jerk toward her ex.
AITA for telling my ex that his stepdaughters’ schedule isn’t important to me?
“Ex and I broke up 7 years ago. Our boys are 11 and 10. He has been married to Mae for 4 years now.
Ever since he remarried our relationship has been high conflict. He tried to claim being married, having a “two parent household with siblings” meant our boys should be primarily with him, and not 50-50 like it had been since our relationship ended. He also sued to have the boys last names changed from mine to his. Both were denied.
He rejected the offer to hyphenate their names. It was very much a relationship destroyer. I was and still am p**sed. Not only did he go through the courts about it but afterward he tried to convince me it would be better for our boys to live with a happily married couple, to have a mom, dad and sisters in one home. I told him they would never have their mom and dad in one home again. And that he should remember that. I’m pretty sure he was unhappy with that but it is what it is.
His wife’s girls have some kind of access with their father but I’m not sure how frequent or infrequent it is. I know it doesn’t sound like the kids are in the house at the same time usually. My ex has tried to make this my problem. He has asked me to give him extra days for this or that because that’s when the girls are there, or can I put them in a different extracurricular to the ones they like because the girls are doing something in another place and it would be easier for him.
This time, he and his wife are planning a two week vacation. He wants me to give up a week with our boys because “the girls can be there for two weeks and he wants a family vacation”. My boys are not close to their stepsisters. This has come up because my ex and his wife have talked to my boys about not claiming sisters when they write about “siblings” on school stuff.
And then when my oldest got a week pass for the trampoline park, he used it while he was with me for him, his brother and a couple of their friends. While ex had asked why he didn’t save it to use with the girls as well. He was annoyed that my ex made such a big deal out of it.
I said no to the whole vacation thing anyway and ex brought up the girls again. I told him the girls schedule with them is not important to me and he needs to stop trying to make it a problem for me. I told him he was not getting an extra week with the boys and he needed to accept it.
Here’s how Reddit users reacted to this story.
This reader said that this woman is NTA and that this is not a healthy co-parenting situation.
Another individual also said she’s NTA and that this guy is being unreasonable.
And this Reddit user said that forcing interactions between blended families is not a good idea.
What do you think about what happened?
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