Should This Woman Have Held Her Tongue In Front Of Her Husband's Coworkers?

Relationships are hard, and they can seem like they’re always in flux, changing and adapting as the partners involved in them do the same.

At least, that’s what happens in the good ones.

In others, like this woman finds herself in, the couple finds themselves stuck in a completely unhealthy rut.

She starts out talking about how her husband has a job that he loves and is good at, but also one that he’s in danger of losing because of his inability to wake up in the morning and get to work on time.

Ever since my husband began working for this company. He became good friends with his co workers. His boss though is the strict type who doesn’t tolerate being late for work which is something my husband is guilty of and constantly gets in trouble for.

He is NOT a morning person. And hates waking up early. Always did.

I’ve taken it upon myself to wake him up since he is job was literally at jeopardy for constantly being late

She has taken on the responsibility of waking him up so he doesn’t get fired, but as you’ll see from reading this, he doesn’t seem to appreciate her help.

At all.

Every morning is an absolute nightmare. He’d stay in bed until 7:30, refuses to wake up, he’d get so aggressive he’d knock off the alarm clock, Push his phone off the nightstand. Put the pillow over his head. Literally scream “Go away I’m trying to get some sleep you —-!!!”

When I try to wake him up. I’d try everything from shouting to removing the pillow and sheets, to shaking him to tickling to spraying him with water. And he’d wake up eventually but be in a very bad mood.

Despite all that he’d end being late for work over a sock or waiting for his phone to charge. This is our life and I’m not complaining however…

When his coworkers brought up his chronic lateness in a social setting, OP’s husband totally lied about not only why he’s late, but how his relationship works with his wife.

It’s Thanksgiving (we’re in canada) he invited his co workers over for dinner. I could tell he was trying to “impress” them since they’re older than him. They were talking about how he’s good in everything except that he’s always late.

He shrugged and said it’s not his fault he’s always late since he wakes up at 5:30, walks the dogs, gets the kids ready for school, make breakfast, clean up the kitchen, pack lunch then spend almost 40 minute waking me up.

I was floored like I couldn’t believe he was talking about us.

The coworkers were surprised and kind of began to rib OP about how “great” she has it so she, stunned, set them straight.

I saw the judging look on his co workers faces as they all start telling him that their wives don’t treat them this way. One of them asked me If I gave my husband “thanks” for the tremendous work he does but I said wait wait this couldn’t be further from the truth.

I said actually if it wasn’t for me he’d never wake up. I’m the one who constantly wakes him up and he doesn’t even know how to set his alarm properly let alone wake up to what he said he does.

His coworkers got quiet and he look shocked. I explained how hard I try to wake him up everyday and they started side eyeing him.

Her husband was upset with her for “making him look bad” in front of his coworkers.

He looked upset yet embarrassed and went off on me once they left saying i ruined his reputation and embarrassed him infront of them just to feed my ego. He said “it’s thanksgiving and you ruined it for me, what’s wrong with you?” Then walked out.

Idk if I should apologize for the awkward dinner.

Should she have just let him have his moment or was he totally wrong for making their relationship into something it isn’t?

As you probably know, Reddit has some thoughts on the matter!

Basically, we’re all wondering how this became normal and why the wife is ok with it?