We hear often that a wedding is supposed to be one of the best days of your life. The attention is all on you, there’s a great party celebrating the next step in your life, and you get to marry the person you love more than anyone else.
If you spend anytime at all online, though, you’ll know that from start to finish, weddings can honestly bring out the worst in people.
This bride would probably say that’s exactly what happened on her wedding day, when her groom treated her in a way that would have her running for divorce court less than 24 hours later.
The incident in question revolves around the tradition of cutting the cake, then feeding each other a bite to symbolize two coming together or caring for each other or something.
Somewhere along the way a secondary tradition of smashing cake in each other’s faces became popular, though many people are unsure why making a huge mess and ruining a bride’s hair and makeup became a thing at all.
The bride in question specifically asked the groom not to do this on their wedding, day, citing very good reasons (as if “please don’t” wouldn’t have been good enough on its own).
What happened next?
The bride dished on all the dirty details in her latter to Slate magazine.
“Being a reasonable man who knows me well, he didn’t. Instead, he grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it. It was planned since the cake was DESTROYED, and he had a bunch of cupcakes as backup.”
Some people might not think this was a huge deal, but to the bride, she couldn’t look past the blatant disrespect of this man who claimed to love her deliberately doing the one thing she had asked him not to on what was supposed to be a special day for them both.
“I left. Next day I told him we were done. I am standing by that. The thing is that over the holidays EVERYONE has gotten together to tell me I should give him a second chance.”
If you’re wondering whose side Dear Prudence came down on, here’s the crux of her reply.
“Everyone’s suer you’re making a mistake, but they’re not the ones who have to wake up every day with a man whose behavior massively turns them off. You are. So you only have to listen to yourself. I think what he did was a red flag about not respecting you and your wishes – to say nothing of the physical aggression – but even if it wasn’t, the fact that you really didn’t like it is enough. Make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness, and continue with your divorce.”
I have to say that I agree with Prudence (and the bride) on this one. This man either hasn’t taken the time to know and understand his wife (red flag) or he knew how much this would upset her and did it anyway (red flag).
Either way, she’s better off without him.
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