This Woman Was Uninvited From A Wedding Reception. Was She Wrong To Ask For Her Gift Back?

Weddings are a whole beast, y’all, and they make people who would normally make good choices act like complete classless heathens on way too many occasions.

This woman is 20 and had already ordered and sent a gift from her cousins registry when she received a call telling her that though she’s invited to the ceremony and the meal afterward, she won’t be able to come to the party because she’s not 21.

My (20F) cousin Isabelle (26F) is getting married in January. I chose a set of Royal Albert plates from the gift registry and they’ve already been delivered.

The invitation said the ceremony would be first, followed immediately by meals and guests would start making their way to the reception hall. Invitation also said to “be prepared for a night of drinking and dancing” at the reception.

A couple of days ago Isabelle called me, we made some small talk. She then said she wanted to call just to confirm I knew the reception was more for partying, and it isn’t really suitable for me considering I’m not even 21.

OP said she didn’t care about drinking and argued with her cousin for a bit before giving in, but asking for her gift back, in that case.

I said I’m fine drinking water and soda, but she replied the capacity for the reception hall is smaller so they’re not including younger guests. Mind you this is a child free wedding so there isn’t really any “younger” guests, I get not wanting to have kids around for the reception.

Isabelle said I’m invited to the ceremony and dinner. I was confused and told her this is really weird, the invitation said ceremony and reception. She replied she’s sorry for the misunderstanding but it said there would be drinking and stuff.

Eventually I told her okay, I respect that but if she could kindly send the plates back so I can get a refund.

Her cousin said no one takes gifts back and OP was invited for the “most important part” anyway.

Isabelle asked why because I’m going to be there for the most important part and they’ve included me in the catering. I said I was expecting to attend the entire wedding, not half and I bought the gift based on that. I might not attend at all now, so she needs to send the plates back and I’ll decide another suitable gift, if any.

She said no one takes back gifts and it’s not like I’m uninvited, if I don’t want to come now that’s on me and I’ve already gotten the gift.

Some people in her family think she’s making an unnecessary scene, so she’s wondering whether or not she’s really out of line.

I also got a text from my other cousin (Isabelle’s sister) that I’m making a scene (she’s 19 by the way and attending the reception. I know another cousin the same age is me is attending the reception), and I think Isabelle’s talked to other relatives about it.

My fiance thinks I’m okay though. So was I the AH asking to return the plates?

For info, her parents were also uninvited from the reception, so age doesn’t seem to be the real reason.

I also got a text from my other cousin (Isabelle’s sister) that I’m making a scene (she’s 19 by the way and attending the reception. I know another cousin the same age is me is attending the reception), and I think Isabelle’s talked to other relatives about it.

My fiance thinks I’m okay though. So was I the AH asking to return the plates?

I have a feeling Reddit is going to have a field day with this one!

The top comment says that OP isn’t wrong (though it might not be considered classy).