In this day and age, if you are a person who has lived a certain number of years who also finds themselves dating, there’s a good chance the people you get to know will have had relationships before you.
Sexual relationships, serious relationships, flings, deep, true love, and yes, even marriages.
It stands to reason that people should respect the path that brought them to their current partner, but as you can see from the story of this bisexual woman, that’s not always the case.
She was married to a woman that she had been dating for around five years when her wife passed away, after which she met, fell in love with, and married her current partner (a man).
Me (30f) and my husband (32m) Keith got married in 2019, 2 years after my wife Katrina passed in 2017. Me and Katrina got married in 2015 but we started dating in 2012.
I met my husband in 2018 and we quickly started dating, he proposed on Christmas 2018.
Recently her husband has begun making rude comments about her previous relationship, insinuating that it wasn’t real because they were a same sex couple and calling her deceased wife ugly to boot.
But in the past 3 weeks he has been making jokes that me and Katrina’s marriage wasn’t real because we’re both female and about how ugly she was and that he would never be caught dead dating her, I have asked him to stop but he keeps brushing me off.
When OP got fed up and told him to knock it off, he left the room and hasn’t spoken to her since, despite apologies (?) on her part.
The other day he made an especially insensitive comment about Katrina I was fed up so I blurted out “do you know how how f**king insensitive your being?”
He looked at me shocked and got up walked away he hasn’t been talking to me for the past 3 days.
I tried apologizing multiple times but he keeps saying that what I said really hurt him so am I the a$$hole?
I know you know Reddit has some things to say, here, so let’s do it.
This comment is long, but has some great advice about abusive relationships – but the bottom line is that this woman needs to get out now.
This person agrees, and adds that things are only going to get worse.
OP deserves to be an equal in the relationship.
We hope this is her moment to get out.
I feel like she really needs to hear this.
As someone who has been in an emotionally abusive relationship myself, I hated even reading this OP.
If she was your friend, what would you tell her? Drop your best pep talk in the comments!