Was This Military Veteran Wrong for Accusing a Woman of “Stolen Valor”? Here’s What People Said.

Whoa, boy, this doesn’t sound good

And I don’t know why anyone, and I mean ANYONE, would ever lie about being in the military…because that situation isn’t gonna end well, my friends.

But what exactly is going on in this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page?

Check out this guy’s story and see if you think he was out of line.

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AITA for falsely accusing a veteran of stolen valor, when she couldn’t give any details about her service?

“I (34m) served as a Captain in the Marine Corps.

I have left the service, and right now I am doing an MBA. One of my classmates (31F), who we’ll call “J”, is very gentle, very soft-spoken and unassuming.

J and I were working together on a case study once, and I started opening up to her about my military service and all the lessons that I’ve learnt from the Corps. J enthusiastically told me “that’s so cool! I was a Surface Warfare Officer in the Navy!”

I immediately felt suspicious about this claim. As I said, J is very demure, and she doesn’t really have the bravado that is required in the military environment (at least, I feel like a certain amount of bravado is required).

I still humored her, and began asking about the details of her military experience – where she deployed, what courses she went through, what ship she served on, etc etc. Suddenly J got all tight-lipped, and she couldn’t say anything specific about military life.

She kept making excuses along the lines of “it just wasn’t a good period of my life” and “I’d rather not talk about it”. Eventually I felt like I had done enough snooping around, and I bluntly told her that she was bulls**tting, and that I’d rather not work with a phony.

I talked about this experience with my friend, M, at our school’s veterans organization. I told M to be wary of anything J says. M responded by telling me that J did serve, he’s seen her paperwork and ID and everything, and that in fact, one of her MBA recommendation letters was written by a retired rear admiral (O-8) who held J in high regard.


The next time I met J, before our class started, I tried to act chummy towards her and make up for accusing her of being a liar. She laughed in my face and told me to “pound sand, poolee”. And for those of you who don’t know, yes, she was being derisive here.


Check out how folks reacted on Reddit.

One person said this guy is an a**hole and they have a theory about what he’s probably like…

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And this reader also said he’s an a**hole and that they’ve seen this behavior before.

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Another Reddit user said he’s most likely doing this because he was talking to a woman.

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