They say that parents don’t play favorites, or don’t have a preferred child, but the sad truth is that there are tons of people out there who feel as if this is not true.
Some parents don’t even bother to try to hide it.
OP is the non-favorite daughter, at least as far as her mother is concerned, and has always felt second best to her younger sister.
When OP got engaged her mother was excited, and OP felt happy finally being the one getting her mother’s attention for once.
The more I think about it, the more I feel bad about it and the more I feel like an arsehole. My whole life my mother has compared me to my older sister. She would always put her on a pedestal and praise her. I could literally never win with my mother, nothing was ever good enough. I was constantly criticized for everything.
When I got engaged things changed. My mother was excited and wanted to be involved. My partner and I wanted to elope but my parents said they’ll pay for a small wedding as they paid for my sister’s. I finally had the attention I craved from my mother. Even if she was judging me for every single thing.
My sister would make snarky comments. I knew she wasn’t used to not being the centre of attention when it came to our mother.
On a special evening a couple of nights before the ceremony, OP’s sister announced her pregnancy and stole all of the attention back.
On my mehndi night, while I was getting my mehndi done my sister said she had an announcement. She announced that after years of infertility she was pregnant.
Everyone was super happy and started congratulating her. It was like my mother forgot about me. The rest of the evening she neglected me and my sister loved all the attention she was receiving.
I get that it’s exciting, she is finally pregnant after how long with the first grandchild, but this was calculated, she purposely did this at my event.
OP told her fiancee that she was feeling slighted and down, and he suggested they go ahead and elope as they had originally planned.
Once everyone had left I contacted my partner to tell him what happened and how upset I was. He understood why I was upset and suggested we go with our original plan, and get Islamically eloped.
I knew my sister would pull something else at the wedding and my mother hadn’t messaged me once.
She worried about the money that had been spent on the wedding, but when she spoke to her father, he told her to go for it – and even showed up to support her at her elopement ceremony.
I was tempted but was worried about my parents spending so much money and things being non-refundable so I called my dad. My dad understood how I felt and said to go for it. Luckily we had a day break in between my mehndi and the Nikah.
My dad contacted the Imam and the next day my partner and I went with my dad, my uncle, my partner’s brother and uncle to the Mosque. We did our Nikah then went out to eat. It was honestly perfect except my mother started calling me so I blocked her.
My partner and I booked a flight to Sydney and left. Once we got there that is when I unblocked my mother and told everyone on Insta.
Now she and her new husband are on holiday but her mother and sister (and maybe others) are blowing up her phone, ruining her time and calling her selfish and immature.
My and my husband’s phones have been blowing up with calls and messages from everyone calling me immature and a brat for doing what I did and disrespecting my mother. My mother’s messages are all about me embarrassing her and everyone gossiping. And all the money she spent and booked on stuff for me.
I feel like an arsehole because I wasted that money, even though my dad said it was okay and they can still celebrate just without us. I feel bad for my husband, everyone is talking about how he married an immature brat. I can’t fully enjoy this spontaneous trip even though my partner and my dad have told me I should block everyone and enjoy my holiday.
Maybe I overreacted? AITA?
Does Reddit agree, or do they think she should enjoy her honeymoon in peace? Let’s find out!
The top comment says OP should enjoy her trip and never regret her decision.
More than one comment suggested that her father’s quick and total support should tell her that she’s not imagining how things are with her mother and sister.
People agree there’s an a$$hole here, and that it’s not OP.
And that her mother still doesn’t get it.
Turnabout is fair play, after all.
I feel badly for this woman and also kind of want to give her a high-five.
What’s your take on weddings and running off at the last minute? Tell us in the comments!