It’s a brave new world when it comes to relationships these days, especially for people young enough to be firmly entrenched in the world of social media. There are new hurdles and pitfalls aplenty, and someone over the age of 40 could really never predict what kids in love are going through these days.
This AITA post is the perfect example, and deals with a woman dating a man who is fairly big on TikTok.
Clarification so this doesn’t get removed: I am NOT asking for any judgment relationship-wise. I’m asking if I am TA for my dueting his video.
I am 20F. My boyfriend (21M) downlnaded TikTok a while ago & developed a decent following, nothing close to Charli or anything but around 80k followers which is pretty impressive.
Most of his videos are “thirst trap” type videos (basically him just being hot on camera lol), which I am totally fine with.
Their relationship has long been untroubled, but as he’s pushing out more and more content, intent on gaining more followers, he hasn’t been the best at maintaining their relationship at home.
She’s talked to him about how she’s feeling, and that she’s upset that he’s breaking dates and the like, all to no avail.
However for the past month, he’s been trying to push out more content because he wants to hit 100k followers before his birthday in April.
He’s gone from spending 2-3hrs filming per day to close to 6hrs (filming, editing, etc). He’s still in school and I work during the day, so the time he spends filming is now cutting into the time we used to spend together.
I brought it up with him two weeks ago and he said he’d try to make time for me but hasn’t yet.
We haven’t spent any time together at all this week, and last week he was an hour late to our date (which I had to leave work early to get to) because he was filming stuff.
Things escalated when he posted a video about his life and included a segment claiming he spent 4 dedicated hours every day just hanging out with his girlfriend.
Two days ago, he posted a “day in the life” TikTok. He filmed his “daily routine” which was pretty accurate, but he also included a clip of us cuddling with text over it that said “4:00-8:00, spending time with my girlfriend”.
I was a little bit hurt by it. The clip he used was over 2 months old, and I honestly can’t remember the last time he spent more than half an hour with me, let alone 4 hours.
OP had it, and posted a “dueting” video in which she responded to his video by showing all of his text messages canceling plans and apologizing for being late, etc.
In response, I dueted the video and greenscreened screenshots of his texts from when he ditched me to film, pushed dates back by hours, cancelled plans, etc.
I admit, it was petty, but I was upset that he was essentially using our relationship for clout & “boyfriend points” with his followers but hasn’t been putting any effort into the relationship IRL.
Her video blew up, he’s losing followers and is super upset, and she’s wondering whether or not she went too far.
My video blew up & his comments are filled with angry comments telling him off for being neglectful, using me for clout, etc.
He’s lost a chunk of followers as well. He’s really upset with me, he said I had no reason to sabotage his TikTok account like that, and if I was upset with him, I should have just talked to him.
He’s begging me to post a follow up video saying the screenshots were fake & vouch for him being a good boyfriend, but I’m refusing.
I do feel bad because he is pretty dedicated to his account, and I feel guilty for being the reason he’s losing followers, but at the same time I feel like what I did was justified.
AITA?
She’s not sure she did, though, and so here’s where Reddit comes in!
Most people think he’s just having trouble dealing with the consequences of his own actions.
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More than a few people thought it was time for them to have a come to Jesus as a couple.
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Others pointed out that her bf could even make this work for him, if he wanted to. (2)
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Not funny haha.
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And to be fair, she did try to talk to him.
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I think more and more relationships are going to have issues like these going forward, but everyone has to be able to communicate, no matter what the issues.
What are your thoughts on the matter? Drop them in the comments!
