Woman Refuses to Go to a Wedding Because Her Husband Isn’t Welcome. Is She Acting Like a Jerk?

Well, this sounds like a pretty sticky situation, if you ask me…

What happens when you invite someone but don’t invite their spouse?

A woman shared her story on Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” to see if she overreacted about her husband not getting invited to a wedding.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for refusing to attend a wedding when my husband is not welcome there?

“My (30f) friend (31f) is getting married in August. She invited me and my husband to the wedding already in October when she got engaged. I was asked to be her maid of honor.

She didn’t have the date immediately as she wasn’t sure how it will be with COVID and now she has the date and she told me she thinks it would be better if my husband didn’t come.

I asked her why and she didn’t want to tell me at first but then she said it is because he is shorten then me and it would look weird on pictures. He has around 165 cm (5 feet 4.961 inches) while I have 166cm (5 feet 5.354 inches). I think the difference is not that big and I offered I wouldn’t wear heels but she said I must wear them cause I am the maid of honor and bridesmaid will wear heels as well.

I said that if my husband is not invited because of his hight I am not coming to her wedding. She said that the day is about her and not about me and my husband and I should respect her wishes about her day. She said that she counts with me as with the maid of honor and I can’t do this to her. I told her she is being shallow and that it is either me and my husband or none of us.

I talk about it with my husband and he think I am not the a**hole and actually would think it would be bad of me to agree with my friend, however he doesn’t like her that much (she doesn’t know that so it couldn’t play a role in it). So I am not sure if his opinion is really objective.

I asked my friend and she said I am the as**hole cause it is just one day and it is about the bride so I shouldn’t make a drama out of it. So perhaps I am the a**hole because I am focusing on me being there with my husband and not at what the bride wants?”

Now it’s time to see how folks on Reddit responded.

This person said that the woman is not a jerk and that she and her husband are in the right in this situation.

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Another Reddit user made it plain and simple: this woman needs to get some new friends.

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This individual remarked that it’s not like the man can control his height and that he (and his wife) should be livid.

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Lastly, this reader said that, at the end of the day, this woman is not acting like a jerk and she’s actually standing up to a bully. I agree!

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What do you think about how this woman behaved?

Was she out of line or justified in her actions?

Let us know in the comments!