Everyone acts differently when they meet new people, but I’m always impressed by folks who are quiet, thoughtful, and polite.
Crazy in this day and age, I know!
And the list of things that turn me off when meeting someone new could fill a book…so I won’t go into that today.
So let’s take a look at what AskReddit users had to say about this.
1. Slow down.
“Getting s**ual too fast.
If we haven’t even met I don’t want to talk dirty with you or have the entire conversation dominated by what s**ual preferences you have. Sending unsolicited nudes also comes into this.
Let’s start with a regular conversation.”
2. Back off.
“Two minutes into talking and guy starts being too direct and egoistic, thinking he already won me over.
No thank you.”
3. Be upfront about it.
“Saying you’d love to get coffee multiple times but never actually following up.
Like just tell me you’re not interested.
Don’t lie to my face.”
4. I’m with you.
“When they change their opinion to match yours.
Once you disagree with something they’re saying, they backtrack gracefully and try to make it seem like they’re on your side.”
5. How about a pic?
“With online dating, people who ask for pics constantly. There was a whole profile for you to look at and we’re texting…just ask me out.
Also uninvited s**ual advances before we’ve even met? Get out of here.”
6. Keep it positive.
“Any expression of h**e for a group of people.
It’s fascinating how quickly people seem to talk about the things or people they h**e when meeting someone new.”
7. Just being honest.
“This is probably going to be unpopular, but it’s an honest take…
If the person I’m talking/dating constantly brings up their anxiety.
I want to preface this with, I have anxiety. I used to have crippling social anxiety. I’ve gotten over it over the years. And I am very aware of how paralyzing it is, and how it can make the most inconsequential things seem like huge deals.
But it is a turn off, when it is the only thing you can hold a conversation about. If I try to ask about their favorite movie is, it will inevitably turn into them talking about their anxiety. If I don’t respond to a text in 5 minutes, they’ll text something along the lines of “you don’t have to respond if you don’t have too. I’m sorry if I’m boring, it’s my anxiety”
And I know there’s nothing inherently wrong with that, but it’s just not what I’m looking for. I’ve dated too many girls that have horrible anxiety and it usually ends with me feeling extremely guilty for breaking up with them. And it doesn’t matter how many of my friends try to comfort me, I still feel like I’m the bad person in that scenario.”
8. Grossed out.
“He was trying to show me a picture of something he made on his coffee table.
His coffee table was a f**king garbage-filled mess of beer cans and c**arette butts. Like dozens of beer cans. It was revolting.
I stopped talking to him.”
9. It’s over.
“I was talking with a girl on Tinder. When I was going to sleep, she messaged me ‘good night, sweaty.’
Bad spelling doesn’t work for me.”
“Bad dental health.
And I don’t mean random bad breath or crooked teeth.
I have had two decent looking guys I work with who have asked me out and I can literally SMELL their cavities/rotting teeth, so I said no.”
11. Will you please shut up?
“Interrupting before I’m done speaking. It shows that the person isn’t really interested in what you have to say, they’re just waiting for their turn to talk.
You can deduce from that simple action that the person feels more important, and that disgusts me.
Nobody learns by listening to themselves.”
12. Here’s the list.
“All have happened to me on first dates…
Spending the whole time looking toward the door as if they’re trying to escape
Late and unapologetic about it
Not saying “thank you” after I buy them a drink
Not asking a single question about me. (Extreme example: They spent a long time talking about their hobby—which they knew also happened to also be my job—but never asked me about it.)
Dressed like a complete slob. (I’m not remotely fashion-conscious, but come on.).”
What turns you off when you talk to someone new?
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