Dad Asks if He’s Wrong for Canceling the Payments for His Daughter’s Wedding

If your dad is gonna foot the bill for your wedding, you better keep him in your good graces, you know what I’m saying?

In this story from the “Am I the A**hole?” page on Reddit, a father asked if he was wrong for canceling his daughter’s wedding.

Take a look at what happened.

AITA for canceling the payments for my daughter’s wedding after she told me my wife isn’t invited?

“My daughter (27F) is getting married in the fall. I (58M, het dad) am supposed to pay for the wedding, that’s what we agreed on. We got the save the date invitations a few days after I put the payments through my bank (they need to be approved, so no money has been paid yet).

My wife isn’t invited to the wedding. I have been divorced for 15 years and married to my wife now for 8 years. My daughter never really liked my wife, they didn’t get along well. My other two kids love her.

I called my daughter and asked her why my wife isn’t invited. She said that it’s her wedding day and she only wants to invite her real family. I said “well did you invite Mom’s BF?” and she said yes. I said “well okay, then you should invite My Wife too, or I am not paying for the wedding”.

She declined and said she isn’t inviting my wife. I told her I’ll cancel the payments then, and she didn’t believe me. I cancelled them and my daughter is now super pissed at me, as is my ex wife.

AITA?”