Most people go into marriage knowing, at least on some level, that it’s meant to be an equal partnership – even if it can be impossible to know what that means in daily practice until you’re actually doing it.
This guy still has plenty to learn, it would seem, because when he had the opportunity to upgrade his seat (and his seat only) on a 12-hour flight halfway around the world he jumped at the chance, leaving his wife in economy.
So I (m25) and my wife (f24) are going to the United States from Japan for a month for vacation, and when we booked the tickets, we initially thought that we were going to be sitting next to each other, but I had the option to upgrade my seat to business with miles and I did.
His wife was not happy at all, feeling that he chose comfort over spending the flight with her.
He decided to make an ill-timed joke instead of apologizing and thinks she’s being unreasonable asking him to switch his seat back.
Well, my wife is not too happy about that because she wanted to sit together on the 12 hour flight, but it’s overnight so we’re gonna be sleeping the whole flight so I didn’t think it mattered. I told her that and she got upset because she thinks I chose business class over her and that’s rude apparently.
I said to her that she’s just jealous (in a teasing joking way) and she got upset and told me to ask the airline to see if I can switch my seat back to economy.
He doesn’t want to be less comfortable for such a long flight (which he acts like is a short flight when pretending not to understand why his wife would prefer to sit with him.
I said hell no because I’m not going to miss my opportunity to sit in business class (which looks amazing btw, look up “ANA the room”). In my eyes, it’s just a 12 hour flight and it doesn’t matter if I sit next to my wife or not.
If it’s really bad though I still have a week before my flight to maybe get it changed. AITA?
Is he the jerk?
I think you know the answer to that, but we’ll let Reddit sort it out below.
The top comment says what we’re all thinking, which is that pretty much anyone would be upset in the wife’s shoes.
OP really needs to work on putting himself in other people’s shoes.
It really kind of says a lot about how he considers other people (that he’s supposed to love).
It’s never really a good thing when your life is an episode of Seinfeld.
I feel like most people would have upgraded their spouse’s ticket, too.
This does turn out to be one of those rare cases when OP (at least says he’s) learned a lesson and is going to make things right.
Edit: yeah I’m the AH, I’m buying her the upgrade to sit next to me in business I offered to switch seats but she really wanted to sit next to me I guess
Edit 2: since so many are asking, they were my miles and I couldn’t use them to upgrade her seat
I’m really glad this guy was convinced because man, he was being super obtuse at the beginning.
How would you handle this if it was your spouse leaving you behind? Let’s talk about it in the comments!