Man Asks if He’s Wrong for Not Giving His Daughter Her Education Fund Money

Here we go, folks!

It’s yet another story involving family drama from the annals of Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page!

And this one involves parents, kids…and MONEY.

So you know it’s gonna be juicy!

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AITA for not giving my daughter her education fund money?

“I (54M) have two children (23F and 21M) with my wife (52F). When the kids were young, my parents set up education funds for both of them, which was very generous of them.

My wife and I always expected our kids to attend college and then graduate school, as we have done. I have a PhD, my wife has a master’s. Because of this, we decided not to use the funds for our kids’ undergrad degrees and did not tell them about the money.

My daughter has always been more into the liberal arts, while my son is more of a STEM guy. My wife and I worried about her ability to find a job, but she insisted on studying music and film in college. She was accepted to some top schools and chose to attend a rather expensive one, but she had scholarships to cover almost all of her tuition.

Everything else, plus living expenses, was her responsibility. She lived in a very small apartment shared with friends in a not-so-nice area far from campus, but she was fine and learned how to budget effectively. After graduating, she luckily found a job that doesn’t pay extremely well but she enjoys, and scrapped the idea of grad school.

My son decided to do engineering, and he also expressed that he had no interest in grad school. My wife and I were disappointed, but accepted it since at this point he is already all set up with a very good job when he completes school.

Since he did not receive as many scholarships as his sister, we decided to use his education fund to cover his tuition and living expenses. He was able to get a large and nice apartment of his own close to the school, which is important since his classes are so demanding and he needs a comfortable space to work.

My daughter was confused and asked how he could afford this, and he told her about the education fund. She called us and asked why she didn’t have one, and we told her she did, we just didn’t use it because we hoped she would attend grad school. She seemed hurt by this and asked if there was any way she could have the money now.

We explained that there would be a fee to simply withdraw the money for non-education uses, and if we chose to do that it would belong to her grandparents so they could put it towards their own use. She’s been quiet and short when answering our texts, and hasn’t answered our calls at all since then. I know that it seems unfair to her, but it’s not really her money in the first place and she’s no longer in college.

Plus, her brother only received it for educational purposes and it wouldn’t be right for her to just have it to spend now. AITA?”