Man Asks if He’s Wrong for Refusing to Walk Down the Aisle With a Certain Woman at His Sister’s Wedding

Uh oh…we’re about to dive into another story about some serious wedding drama…

And it comes to us via the “Am I the A**hole?” page on Reddit, which is always chock-full of interesting stories about people really going at it with each other.

Check out this story and see if you think this guy was out of line…

AITA for refusing to walk with my sister’s “friend” in her wedding and requesting a different girl?

“Title is weird. So is this whole situation I (27M) find myself in.

I do think the backstory is important here. So my sister is getting married in November. We are really close and always have been. So I find this whole situation to be ever weirder. I’ve been asked to be a groomsman on her fiancé’s side. Me and him are cool and it was important to my sister that I’m included. I was really looking forward to it until I saw who I was paired with.

So two years ago I met this girl named Tara (26F) on a dating app. We started talking daily. FaceTimed a lot. Went on dates. We talked for over 3 months. And I felt like it was actually going somewhere. Well after one of the dates she completely ghosted me. Sent a follow up text but got nothing back.

I won’t lie. I was really upset. I even talked to my sister about it. Well Covid hit and I moved away for a job. Come back to find out my sister and Tara are now friends? Apparently my sister got a new job. Tara recognized the last name. Reached out to her and they became friends. Such good friends in fact that she is now a bridesmaid and hangs at my parents house.

And my parents know her? I found out they were friends literally 3 weeks ago. She never mentioned it to me. I asked if she knew it was the Tara I got ghosted by. And she said Tara had told her. But wanted to keep their conversations private.

Then a random text from Tara. Asking what I wanted to do for our entrance dance. I immediately called my sister. Who informed me that Tara and I would be paired up. Including the entrance dance. I asked why. I know many of her bridesmaids and she had to pair me with the one who ghosted me? She said she had her reasons. And Tara also asked for me specifically.

I never responded to Tara and instead went to talk to my sister in person. Got the same answers. And this time she sounded offended??? that I asked for a different person. I told her how uncomfortable it made me. And she told me to stop overthinking. And just have fun. I said that she didn’t understand how hurt I was.

She said she had an idea, but to just do it as her wedding gift. I told her I’d be stepping down from the wedding party. I’ll just go as a guest. She went apes**t. Saying I couldn’t do that. And she wanted me up there.

I said fine then switch me to a different girl. She said she wasn’t going to. So I told her I’d be dropping out. My parents are calling me an AH. But I don’t think I am. It’s a weird request and I’m not about it.


Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.

One person said he’s NTA and that they’re trying to force them together.

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Another Reddit user offered up a possible explanation and said that either way, he is NTA.

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And this individual made a good point about what’s going on here…

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