Man Asks if He’s Wrong for Spending Time With His Newborn Child Instead of His Wife

If you have kids, you know the drill

When those kiddos are babies, mom and dad are not gonna get a whole lot of free time…or very much sleep.

And that brings us to today’s story!

Is this guy an a**hole for spending time with his new baby instead of his wife?

Get all the details below and see what you think.

AITA for deciding to spend time with my newborn daughter than my wife?

“I (27m) am doing my residency in a surgical specialty working 12-hour shifts regularly. More often than not, I work more than 80 hours a week.

A few days ago, I worked a 24-hour shift at the hospital and got Monday evening off. My wife (24f) wanted us to go out for dinner, but I told her that I’d prefer staying at home with our infant daughter. That way, I can spend time with both her and our daughter, who I don’t see nearly as much as I want to, and also get some rest.

I told her that I understand being cooped up all day at home can be very boring, so we could do something quick (<30 minutes) but that I want to spend most of our time at home.

She was pretty upset by this but I’m honestly past arguing at this point.

Don’t get me wrong, my wife is a wonderful mother and wife, and taking care of a newborn is certainly not easy. But she is also supported by my parents who live with us and is not doing anything anywhere near as physically or cognitively demanding as what I am doing.

I’m dangerously close to crossing over into burnout territory with how much I am working and it would be hard to continue functioning at this pace without any rest.

Besides, I don’t want to compromise a single second with my baby for anything else unless I absolutely have to. I’m not spending nearly as much time with her as I should.


Check out how folks reacted on Reddit.

This reader said he’s NTA but he and his wife need to work on their communication issues.

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Another individual said his wife needs to schedule some adult time for herself.

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And this Reddit user said both of their attitudes suck but his wife needs to focus on adult plans for herself.

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