Man Wants to Know if He’s a Jerk for Not Sharing His Inheritance With His Sister

It’s Family Drama time, folks…again!

And it comes to us, once again, courtesy of Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page.

And this particular story involves a brother, a sister, and some inheritance money.

Read on to get all the details and see if you think the guy who wrote this post acted like a jerk.

AITA For Not Sharing My Inheritance With My Sister Since Chose To Be Adopted?

“I (30m) lost my mom when I was 5. Despite being so young I had very vivid and treasured memories of my mom and did not take to my dad dating a year after her death well.

My dad recognized that he knew this would be hard for me but said that as the parent/adult he knew what was best even if it didn’t seem that way at first and that he’d thank me in the long run. Not long after that he married my stepmom “Lucy” and when I began to act out over it my dad said that parenting alone was hard and that my sister “Jessica” (28f) needed a mom.

My dad even got my maternal grandparents to tell me that everything would be fine and how I needed to be a “good boy.”

That was enough to get me to behave during the wedding but once Lucy moved in and started redecorating I started acting out again. My dad had had enough and just started punishing me whenever I acted out or made Lucy upset as well as used the “Jessica isn’t acting out like this” and to be honest Jessica was easily pleased and wasn’t alive long enough to have the same attachment to our mom as I did. It really upset me when Jessica started calling Lucy “mom” and it really ticked me off when Lucy started referring to me as her son. I always corrected it when she tried that around me.

It got worse when I was 8 and Lucy had her own kids because then my dad and her started pushing for adoption. Jessica, obviously, had no problems with it but I refused. My dad had my maternal grandparents come in again and tell me that adoption wouldn’t be that bad but I still refused.

Lucy and my dad pushed for the adoption anyway but thankfully the judge listened to my feelings in a private room and denied it. After that therapy started but it didn’t last so they also tried the “since you don’t want to be a part of THIS family you don’t get X or you can’t come do Y” but I was too stubborn for that method to work on me.

The only one who I felt was on my side was my paternal aunt who kept sticking up for me whenever she’d see what Lucy and my dad were trying to do, so when I turned 18 I went straight to her. It was when I became a legal adult that my maternal grandparents confessed that they were never O.K. with the situation but my dad threatened to keep me and my sister away if they didn’t show support.

I was furious, so furious that I had my surname legally changed to my mom’s maiden name as I wanted nothing to do with my dad and only ever really talked to my paternal aunt.

Fast forward to now and my grandma has passed away (grandpa d**d in 2020) and according to their will only their legal grandchildren is to split a $250,000 inheritance and since Jessica is legally Lucy’s daughter all she got was a framed photo of my mom and a letter. Jessica doesn’t think it’s fair and thinks I should share but I told her to get money from her legal grandparents.

My aunt thinks I’m being a bit harsh so AITA?”

Here’s what Reddit users said about this.

One person said he’s NTA and they made a good point…

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And this Reddit user said it sounds like his grandparents knew what they were doing.

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Another individual said he’s NTA but that they feel for his sister.

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