Y’all, I feel like I need to put some kind of warning on this post, because if you’re someone whose blood pressure rises from the mere mention of abusive relationships and/or people treating new mothers poorly, then you (like me) need to take care.
This woman gave birth to her first child five weeks ago, and her in-laws have been staying with her and her husband ever since.
She feels as if her mother-in-law is monopolizing time with the baby, to the point where she has to even ask repeatedly when she wants to feed him.
Hi. I’m a new mom, had my son 5 weeks ago. my husband’s parents have been staying with us and things have been super overwhelming.
MIL has a habit of taking the baby and refusing to give him back to me. She’d say I’m deliberately ruining her time with him. My son needs feeding every 2hrs and she basically makes me beg her to hand him over to me so I could feed.
Things came to a head when it was late, the baby began crying, and her mother-in-law refused multiple times to hand the baby to his mother.
Her husband did not have her back, calling her a “whiny little girl.”
last night at 10PM. MIL had my son in her arms while sitting on the couch with my husband and his dad. I was exhausted, the baby started crying. I told my MIL to hand him over to me so I could feed him.
She refused and I kept asking. my husband starts talking about what a whinny little girl I was to complain that our son is receiving love and cuddles and how I’m using feeding as an excuse to keep the baby away from his mom.
I ignored him and told his mom to hand over the baby. she refused and said I needed to wait a little longer.
OP lost her cool, telling her MIL to hand over the baby and to stop being annoying. She ran into her room crying and while OP took the baby to nurse, her husband went to comfort his mother.
I got angry at this point, My husband said I could take the baby after I ask his mom nicely. This had me seething I meanly told his mom to stop being annoying and overbearing and hand him over to me.
She looked at me shocked and hurt. She handed the baby over and ran into the guest room and my husband gave me a look than followed her and stayed inside to comfort her.
This is where things get really bad, because he marched into the room where she was feeding her baby and berated her for how she’d talked to his mom, accused her of not giving the baby as much love as his mother, and a whole host of other gross things.
He came into the room while I was feeding my son and started yelling about how disrespectful I was to speak to his mom this way and treat her poorly when all she’s doing is showing our son more love than I do.
I told him about how she’s been taking the baby for hours and preventing me from feeding him properly. he said that 1, our son isn’t an object for me to act like I own him and 2, his mom was doing nothing wrong and 3, I should’ve asked nicely instead of being a b*%ch to his mom and making her cry.
She threatened to go to her parents house, but now she’s wondering if she should feel badly for being rude to her mother-in-law.
I started crying and yelled that I’d go to my mom’s place if his parents stay any longer and he yelled back saying “shut the f**k up, you’re only acting up cause you don’t want my parents around! f**k’s wrong with you?” then walked out.
I felt terrible thinking maybe I was rude to his mom but I also think that I’d hit my limits here. AITA for not asking her nicely like my husband wanted?
Y’all I am absolutely seething and ready to go and get this woman and her son myself – but let’s see what advice Reddit has for her.
The top comment – and really all of the comments – think there are tons of red flags from both the in-laws and the husband.
There is no way he should be speaking to her like that, new baby or not, but with a baby makes it even worse.
There may not be much time to spare, so she definitely shouldn’t wait.
Her husband should be on her side – and the baby’s advocate – before anything else.
Anyone want to form a posse with me to go get this woman and her son? Because I’m ready to ride.
How would you have responded? If she was your friend, what would you say? Tell us in the comments!d