How would you react if your partner believed that you should share a bonus from your job that you worked hard for?
I guess every situation is different, but a woman took to Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page to see what the readers there thought about her story.
Let’s take a look…
AITA for expecting my work bonus to be mine?
“My (f40) husband (m39) has been in charge of our finances for our entire relationship. I have no online access to our bank account though I do have an ATM card. He has his own separate account that I have no access to as well.
He manages all of the bills minus my credit card which I opened recently. I get a weekly payment that he approves and I am expected to buy groceries, my gas, and I get a small allowance (assuming my groceries stay under budget which rarely happens because two teenage children and rising costs).
With the holidays I put on a little bit of additional money on my card. Just around 250 dollars.
I knew I was going to have a 200 dollar bonus from my job so I said several times that I was going to use that to pay my card. I said it on at least 3 occasions.
Today I found out the money went in the bank 3 days ago and he already spent it. I got upset and we had an argument and I cried.
He told me it was our money and went to our bills but I wouldn’t even know if that was true.
Am I the a**hole for being upset?”
Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.
This reader said that it sounds like there are much bigger issues going on in this marriage.
And this person said that this woman needs to take some important steps because her husband is so controlling.
Another Reddit user said she needs to stop this and open her own account with the money she works for.
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