I think sharing posts like this one is so important, because too many people don’t believe that wives can be harmful and abusive to their husbands.
I mean, this poor OP can hardly believe it and it’s happening to him.
He says that he’s accepted the fact that his wife is a “hot head” and berates him over small (but admittedly annoying) mistakes at home.
So my wife, F (26) and I, M (33) been married for 2 years. I admit that she is a hothead and can be a bit much especially when she’s mad at me.
I take responsibility for any mistake j make like not cleaning the bathroom after the shower or filling her car with gas after using it.
I even stand there and let her unload her anger and frustration on me BUT only at home and not in public. She tends to start arguing with me in public instead of waiting til we get home.
The issue is that now she’s coming down to his work to humiliate him there and it’s beginning to interfere with his employment.
Recently she’s been coming to my workplace to berate me over something I did the night before like not getting the stuff I said I would get or doing the stuff I said I would do.
It’s embarrassing and humiliating and has been affecting my job to the point where I started getting a warning after a warning from my superiors who, I believe have been very patient and understanding especially when my wife makes a fuss at the office.
Recently things came to a head when she barged in on a meeting he was having with not only his bosses, but his clients.
This resulted in her getting escorted out by security while he sat and watched, afraid this would be the final straw that cost him his job.
Last week I was in the middle of a 2hr meeting and next thing I knew was seeing my wife barge in while yelling at me asking why I was keeping my phone turned off (I had to turn it off after getting warnings about I since she forbid me from turning it off).
I was stunned, because my superior and co workers AND potential clients were there. I didn’t even move my superior dealt with it and called security to get her out. My wide started arguing with him telling him she came for me then started urging me to get off my seat and tell them to back off. But I didn’t I just watched as security escorted her out.
It was horrible because I had a fear that my job was lost. She yelled at me repeatedly to get them to stop but she got kicked out eventually.
His employers told him she was no longer allowed in the building, and also this was his final warning about her behavior before they would have to let him go.
She, however, was just angry at him for not standing up for her at the office.
I got told she’s no longer allowed there and that this was going to be my final, last warning. I apologized then went home. She was there waiting then yelled about me watching and doing nothing whole she was getting mistreated and kicked out.
I finally snapped and said she was over the line, made a scene that risked my job over few missed calls. She started crying saying I still should’ve defended her after getting humiliated in front of my co workers but told her she didn’t have to worry about it because she’s no longer allowed there.
She got more furious and went to her mom’s to stay there.
OP wants to know if he should have taken his wife’s side, and y’all, my heart just goes out to him.
The top comment tells OP in no uncertain terms that his wife’s behavior is not normal.
There’s a difference between being annoyed and what she’s leveled up to, here. (2)
She definitely needs help (and maybe a diagnosis).
The chances of her self-reflecting seem low.
The bottom line is that she is abusive and he needs to take action.
I hope this man reads all of these comments and starts to realize the reality of what’s happening to him.
If he was your friend or co-worker, what advice would you give him? Drop it in the comments!