There are some posts on the subreddit Am I The A$$hole that make you laugh, some that make you shake your head, and some that make you want to take the OP home and cook them a hot meal.
Then there are some, like this one, that make you literally see red with rage.
OP’s husband’s friend injured his leg and has been staying with them while he recovers, as he has no one else to help care for him.
The issue? Instead of caring for his friend, the husband expects his wife (OP) to do all of the extra cooking, cleaning, and serving while he goes about his regular routine.
So I (f34) was having a horrible toothache, I’d taken medication to ease the pain but it was bad, like you-need to go-to the dentist level of bad. I scheduled an appointment and was told to come yesterday.
My husband’s (m37) best friend “Terry” (m33) got into an accident and injured his knee. he has been staying with us for several weeks. My husband looks after him as he sees him living alone and in need of assistance. I welcomed him to our home but found myself having to clean up after him and bring him his medication and also cook for him.
And if I take a long time to get something done he’d call my husband and basically “tell on me” which makes my husband mad. he says it’s temporary and also since I’m home 24/7 and he is the working then I should help caring for his friend. It has became quite overwhelming because now I can’t leave the house if my husband isn’t there with his friend.
That would be enough of an issue, honestly, but OP recently got a toothache that was impacting her health and daily life. She made an appointment to have it looked at but her husband said she needed to stay home to take care of his friend instead.
Like I stated previously about the dental appointment, I told my husband the night before and he pitched a hissy fit saying I can’t leave Terry home alone.
I suggested he take time off work and stay with him but he said it wouldn’t work with such a short notice. he suggested that I reschedule but I said no, even showed him how bad the swelling was, yet he told me to hold on for another day.
OP ignored him, but when her mother came to pick her up to take her to the appointment, the friend yelled at her and called to “tattle” to her husband.
He went to work early and I decided I was still going to go. Terry was in the livingroom (he sleeps on a large mattress in the living room) and saw me making my way out as mom was waiting at the door. He asked where I was going and I told him to the dental appointment.
He had an attitude and raised his voice at me telling me to go back upstairs and cancel. mom stepped in and started arguing with him asking who he think he is, he went on about how he was unable to move and then threatened to call my husband if I stepped a foot out the door.
I took my mom and left. He ended up calling my husband who then tried to call me over and over for 2 hours til I turned my phone off.
OP went through with the appointment and has been staying with her mother while she recovers.
Her husband is calling to berate her/argue with her mother about his treatment of her in the meantime.
Instead of returning home, I went to stay with my mom because I was in tremendous pain and my husband started yelling at me calling me stubborn for still going after he told me to reschedule and irresponsible for leaving his injured friend home alone. Mom told him off which escalated the argument between us.
He is now currently staying at home along with his friend while constantly pressuring me to stop hiding behind mom and come deal with the results of having him leave his job for hours after I blind sided him and went against his wishes.
I know no one on Reddit is going to tell this woman to go home and back to this mess, so I’m just here for all of the good advice.
The top comment suggests OP leave the two of them alone to live their unhappy lives together.
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And this person points out that the fact that OP’s health and comfort doesn’t trump that of his friend’s is very telling – and a dealbreaker.
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Yet another example of gender inequality in everyday life.
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The whole friend needs to go straight into the trash.
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I mean who does this guy think he is?
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I am so mad on OP’s behalf I would like to find her and make sure she does not go back there at the very least until the friend is gone. My goodness.
How would you react if your partner tried to pull something like this? Let’s rage together in the comments!
