The internet has well-established the fact that for some reason, people absolutely lose their minds when it comes to planning a wedding. People who are normally level-headed and thoughtful can become completely unhinged, but I’ve gotta say…this woman really takes the cake.
OP and her fiance are gearing up for their big day, working on a guest list and deciding how they want things to look – which for them, includes no children under 10.
My fiance proposed a few months ago and we’re getting ready for our wedding. We’re currently making a guest list and we will send out invitations in the next few months.
Our plan for the wedding was for it to be childfree. I’ve been to many weddings that were ruined by screaming and wailing tykes and as much as I love kids, I would prefer there to not be screaming at my wedding.
The rule was that no children below the age of 10 are invited.
Her fiance has a younger sister who he’s very close to, and OP claims to be excited at the prospect of becoming her older sister, too…or at least she was until she found out the teenager was pregnant and planning to keep the baby.
So my fiance has a little sister who he is close to and whom I really do like. I’m very excited to be her older SIL. She was going to be a guest at our wedding, however a few days ago we found out she is pregnant and plans on having the baby. Now I’m not going to sit here and shame her for her irresponsible actions or anything, but I felt like this was a very big deal.
My family is very religious and I know they will be unhappy and it would potentially ruin their time if they saw a pregnant teenager at my wedding. That of course isn’t that big of a deal.
Now she has some concerns about inviting her at all, including the fact that her own very religious parents would be bothered by it.
What I’m more worried about is her due date. She is apparently due 2 weeks after the wedding. My worry is this, pregnant women require a lot of care and extra accommodation. There’s also the risk of her water breaking at my ceremony and taking all the attention off me on my day.
Call me selfish but I feel that I and my husband to be should be the focal point. I don’t want to risk her giving birth and needing even more attention that should be placed on me. So I think she shouldn’t be there.
Next up, she has her concern about the girl’s due date, which is just a couple of weeks after the wedding, OP worries that the pregnancy will in some way steal the attention and focus from her on her wedding day, so her future sister-in-law should just stay home.
What I’m more worried about is her due date. She is apparently due 2 weeks after the wedding. My worry is this, pregnant women require a lot of care and extra accommodation.
There’s also the risk of her water breaking at my ceremony and taking all the attention off me on my day. Call me selfish but I feel that I and my husband to be should be the focal point.
I don’t want to risk her giving birth and needing even more attention that should be placed on me. So I think she shouldn’t be there.
Now her fiance and his family are all mad at her (and I imagine probably stunned, as well) but OP is trying to make her case anyway by coming to Reddit.
I told my fiance and he got unbelievably pissed off at me. He told me I was being a complete asshole by not inviting her since he’s her little sister. I get that they are very close, but it’s not a good idea.
Attention aside, I don’t think a nine month pregnant teen should be on her feet at a wedding so close to her due date. He told me I was back pedaling and I should be ashamed of myself. HE then told his whole family and they all are mad at me for suggesting this.
What does Reddit say? I honestly can’t wait to read their replies!
The top comment warns that not only is OP in the wrong here, but she’d better take care on the (true) colors she’s showing her in-laws.
If anyone should be ashamed here, it’s OP.
This really does feel like next level.
I think we can all agree that her focus and concern is not actually about the future SIL at all.
I mean it’s all sort of ridiculous.
Y’all, I cannot with this woman. I will be shocked if her fiance doesn’t end up leaving her, because he, his family, and especially his sister deserve better.
Would you still marry her if she was your partner? Tell us why or why not in the comments!