If we were going to make a list of things that upset relationships, both in the beginning, the end, and in the middle, I have to think that money would be near the top of it.
OP here and her boyfriend have been dating for around 9 months. He has two small children who “love to go out to eat,” so the four of them go to a restaurant once a week.
The problem? Her boyfriend always “forgets” his wallet, leaving OP to pay since there are kids involved who want/need to eat.
It’s having a negative impact on OP’s finances, as she doesn’t budget four meals out for a family of four every month (which we all know is getting more and more expensive).
I f32 have been dating my boyfriend m36 for 9 months. He has two little children who love going out to eat. We go out once a week and each time he happens to forget his credit card to make a payment.
I’d obviously end up paying since we had the kids with us. but honestly it left me broke this month and the month before.
She had just gotten paid and knew they had plans to go to dinner, so she sent him a text reminding him not to forget his credit card.
He laughed like she was making a joke, and when the got to dinner – after he’d let his kids go a bit crazy ordering – he confirmed that he had “forgotten” his credit card once again.
I just received my payment for my 2nd job (part time). We agreed to go out together with the kids and I even sent him a text reminding him to not forget his credit card. He laughed it off.
At the restaurant we had ordered dinner and he let the kids order lots of new stuff on the menu which was $$$. Before we started eating I mentioned his credit card just to make sure he didn’t forget it. He looked at me shocked and then started searching his pockets for a while.
He then looked at me in a sorry way and said “Guess I forgot it in the other pair of jeans that I thought I was going to wear” then asked me to foot the bill “just this time”.
OP got up and left without eating (or paying).
Her boyfriend called yelling at her about how she’s selfish and mean and doesn’t care about his kids needing to eat, as they, too, had to leave without eating.
The food was on the table but I didn’t even get a bit. I grabbed my stuff and got up. He freaked out asking where I was going. I told him I wouldn’t be paying “this time AGAIN” and to enjoy his dinner with the kids. Then I walked out.
He called me later and absolutely lost it on me. he said that he couldn’t believe I’d walk and leave him and the KIDS in this situation. I said I wasn’t going to pay for him and the kids food every single time! it’s unfair!
he said he forgot, FORGOT (he yelled like that) and that I did not show sympathy for him and the kids and he had to cancel and go home with the kids hungry since he couldn’t pay right there and then.
OP is wondering whether or not she was too hasty, or should have handled things differently.
We got into an argument and he’s been mad at me about it since then saying things like how he needs to take a look at how I’m treating the kids specifically and how I was willing to let them go hungry with my selfishness.
AITA?
Let’s hear what Reddit has to say below!
The top comment minces no words, advising OP that she’s being used and to take a good, hard look at the relationship.
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And more than one person is sure the boyfriend is manipulating her on purpose.
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In fact, no one had anything nice to say about the boyfriend at all.
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They think his kids will see the truth…one day.
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Everyone thinks there’s no way he’s making genuine mistakes here.
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This is bizarre behavior, if you ask me, and I can’t believe she’s put up with it for this long.
How many times would you have gone along with the “I forgot!” excuse? Tell us in the comments!
